gogonuts123
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i broke up with my GF of 2 years a few months ago. ILs were dropping on both sides and it was simply time to end it. it ended about as good as a relationship could end.
i had been dating a few other girls in the meantime and none of them had hit the mark. a few weeks ago my ex calls up and we decide to hang out. i am not opposed to being friends with an ex if i consider them a quality person. she is.
the first time we hung out(at her place) the conversations while playing catch-up were engrossing. it was very playful, silly and touchy-feely. i know i could have banged her but i chose not to. i'd rather not go down that route with an ex. i am in control of this situation.
the second time we hung out at her place roughly a week later same deal, just escalated. it was more touchy feely, more sexual conversation topics and more laughs. again, i know i could have banged her but chose not to.
the 3rd time we hung out, i show up and she's all dressed up and suggests dinner out at our old favorite restaurant. i wasn't expecting this at all but agreed. i am still in the "we are just friends" mindset and while having dinner i am flirting with the waitress just for fun without intending to get a rise out of my ex. my ex did get a bit of a rise out of it and i had to clarify "we are just friends, who cares?" again the conversations were fun, plenty of kino etc. so we get back to her place and this is where i falter. i made a conscious effort to go for it. i am only a man, right? as expected there was no resistance from her part and it was about as natural a progression as could be. the sex was great and i spent the night. i was thinking this could be the start of a fun venture and even was feeling a rekindling connection with her(as much as i hate to admit it). the next morning she said something that caught me totally off guard. she said we would not be doing that kind of thing again with me but had fun etc. i was had the "whatever" approach and said my goodbyes and left for work.
since that day i hadn't heard much from her. it is really just a power thing? or was i just straight up used by an ex that's desperate for sex?
it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth and makes me feel less of a man
i had been dating a few other girls in the meantime and none of them had hit the mark. a few weeks ago my ex calls up and we decide to hang out. i am not opposed to being friends with an ex if i consider them a quality person. she is.
the first time we hung out(at her place) the conversations while playing catch-up were engrossing. it was very playful, silly and touchy-feely. i know i could have banged her but i chose not to. i'd rather not go down that route with an ex. i am in control of this situation.
the second time we hung out at her place roughly a week later same deal, just escalated. it was more touchy feely, more sexual conversation topics and more laughs. again, i know i could have banged her but chose not to.
the 3rd time we hung out, i show up and she's all dressed up and suggests dinner out at our old favorite restaurant. i wasn't expecting this at all but agreed. i am still in the "we are just friends" mindset and while having dinner i am flirting with the waitress just for fun without intending to get a rise out of my ex. my ex did get a bit of a rise out of it and i had to clarify "we are just friends, who cares?" again the conversations were fun, plenty of kino etc. so we get back to her place and this is where i falter. i made a conscious effort to go for it. i am only a man, right? as expected there was no resistance from her part and it was about as natural a progression as could be. the sex was great and i spent the night. i was thinking this could be the start of a fun venture and even was feeling a rekindling connection with her(as much as i hate to admit it). the next morning she said something that caught me totally off guard. she said we would not be doing that kind of thing again with me but had fun etc. i was had the "whatever" approach and said my goodbyes and left for work.
since that day i hadn't heard much from her. it is really just a power thing? or was i just straight up used by an ex that's desperate for sex?
it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth and makes me feel less of a man