"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Was I blind??

Drewskie

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Ok, yesterday some friends and I went to a bar, as we were playing pool 3 really cute girls came and sat next to our table and I chatted for a bit and got them to join our pool game. Halfway through our pool game some other dude came up, and started talking with the girl I wanted...I wasn't about to compete so i just let him do his thing. The girls told my friends and I under their breath that they really didn't want to talk to the other guys, but kept chattin anyway. The one I wanted asked my name, where I was from, an dsome other b.s small talk. When we finished the game, the other two girls wanted to leave so they grabbed my cutie and started to take off. She walked up to me with a big smile and said, it was very nice meeting you, I just said "you too". Thing is, the c-block and his friend were kinda waiting there for them to leave, so I didn't even bother asking for the number. A few girls I know said she was giving me the go ahaed by walking up to me? Is that the case, or am i just trying to make myself feel even dumber?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sometimes I say I don't want to compete w/someone else not so much b/c it's true but because I'm afraid of "losing." Perhaps this was the case here. And funny enough, she seemed to prefer you.
 
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My man, she was "CHOOSING" you. "Choosing" is a pimp-derived term meaning that she was attracted to you and wanted you to close the deal with her.

Below I BOLDED and UNDERLINED her choosing signals:

Drewskie said:
Ok, yesterday some friends and I went to a bar, as we were playing pool 3 really cute girls came and sat next to our table and I chatted for a bit and got them to join our pool game. Halfway through our pool game some other dude came up, and started talking with the girl I wanted...I wasn't about to compete so i just let him do his thing. The girls told my friends and I under their breath that they really didn't want to talk to the other guys, but kept chattin anyway. The one I wanted asked my name, where I was from, an dsome other b.s small talk. When we finished the game, the other two girls wanted to leave so they grabbed my cutie and started to take off. She walked up to me with a big smile and said, it was very nice meeting you, I just said "you too". Thing is, the c-block and his friend were kinda waiting there for them to leave, so I didn't even bother asking for the number. A few girls I know said she was giving me the go ahaed by walking up to me? Is that the case, or am i just trying to make myself feel even dumber?
Well at least it sounds like you realized that you blew it, so that's step one (not trying to be funny). Whenever a woman singles you out and gives you that kind of attention, she's letting you know she's interested.

If a situation like this presents itself again with another female, invite her over to where you are (subliminally communicates you being in power, since SHE would be coming to YOU). When she arrives, tell her that it was nice meeting her, but it seems that those guys are running interference. Then exchange numbers with her and invite her to call you later.

Then give her one of these looks :cool: as you go back to your game. Her heart will melt and her p*ssy will get wet. Seriously.


Man, it happens. Don't beat yourself up and use this as a lesson. Next time, don't be afraid to "close the deal."
 

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Thanks man. I'm usually not that much of a chump. And when I've done stupid sh!t like that in the past it hasn't bothered me, but she was hott as hell, and I think she was making it easy for me. Gotta chalk it up to a learning experience.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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