"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Was I blind??

Drewskie

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Ok, yesterday some friends and I went to a bar, as we were playing pool 3 really cute girls came and sat next to our table and I chatted for a bit and got them to join our pool game. Halfway through our pool game some other dude came up, and started talking with the girl I wanted...I wasn't about to compete so i just let him do his thing. The girls told my friends and I under their breath that they really didn't want to talk to the other guys, but kept chattin anyway. The one I wanted asked my name, where I was from, an dsome other b.s small talk. When we finished the game, the other two girls wanted to leave so they grabbed my cutie and started to take off. She walked up to me with a big smile and said, it was very nice meeting you, I just said "you too". Thing is, the c-block and his friend were kinda waiting there for them to leave, so I didn't even bother asking for the number. A few girls I know said she was giving me the go ahaed by walking up to me? Is that the case, or am i just trying to make myself feel even dumber?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sometimes I say I don't want to compete w/someone else not so much b/c it's true but because I'm afraid of "losing." Perhaps this was the case here. And funny enough, she seemed to prefer you.
 
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My man, she was "CHOOSING" you. "Choosing" is a pimp-derived term meaning that she was attracted to you and wanted you to close the deal with her.

Below I BOLDED and UNDERLINED her choosing signals:

Drewskie said:
Ok, yesterday some friends and I went to a bar, as we were playing pool 3 really cute girls came and sat next to our table and I chatted for a bit and got them to join our pool game. Halfway through our pool game some other dude came up, and started talking with the girl I wanted...I wasn't about to compete so i just let him do his thing. The girls told my friends and I under their breath that they really didn't want to talk to the other guys, but kept chattin anyway. The one I wanted asked my name, where I was from, an dsome other b.s small talk. When we finished the game, the other two girls wanted to leave so they grabbed my cutie and started to take off. She walked up to me with a big smile and said, it was very nice meeting you, I just said "you too". Thing is, the c-block and his friend were kinda waiting there for them to leave, so I didn't even bother asking for the number. A few girls I know said she was giving me the go ahaed by walking up to me? Is that the case, or am i just trying to make myself feel even dumber?
Well at least it sounds like you realized that you blew it, so that's step one (not trying to be funny). Whenever a woman singles you out and gives you that kind of attention, she's letting you know she's interested.

If a situation like this presents itself again with another female, invite her over to where you are (subliminally communicates you being in power, since SHE would be coming to YOU). When she arrives, tell her that it was nice meeting her, but it seems that those guys are running interference. Then exchange numbers with her and invite her to call you later.

Then give her one of these looks :cool: as you go back to your game. Her heart will melt and her p*ssy will get wet. Seriously.


Man, it happens. Don't beat yourself up and use this as a lesson. Next time, don't be afraid to "close the deal."
 

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Thanks man. I'm usually not that much of a chump. And when I've done stupid sh!t like that in the past it hasn't bothered me, but she was hott as hell, and I think she was making it easy for me. Gotta chalk it up to a learning experience.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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