"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Was I being checked out?

slitherjef

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Okay, this is going to sound like a stupid question, but its a serious one. I ask the following questions because this is all pretty new to me, pretty sad, I know but I guess I am just a late bloomer. Since I found this site I have started to notice more stuff then ever from hot babes. I have even started to see more and notice more with my head held up with a bit more confidence.

At our store there is a bank, it has its usual employees. A couple women and a couple guys. The women are decent, one is a hottie, a 7 in my book. Really slim, has a nice rack and pretty face, probably around 26 or something. Anywho, last week, for the first time since she has worked at the bank, I said something to her, a quick, "hey, hows it going" for the first time ever, because see was doing some shopping in my department. I got a casual, friendly response back. Nothing special. Well, today I was doing some work, pretty busy actualy but as I was heading toward the back, I seen her looking my way. I looked at her then flashed a friendly smile for a moment and headed down to the back room. I don't think she smiled back, but may have. I let it go. A while latter I am working, she is at the bank working but I start to notice something... every so often I see her looking my way. Not quick glances, but looking. She was not hiding it either. WTF!? This did not happen once or twice, but some where around 6-8 times!

With my total lack of experince with women I was scratching my head and of course a real DJ would have went up and got her info and split. But since Im a complete moron with tons of stuff to learn and was at work, she was working, I just kept doing my job.

So, there is my dumb question. Was I being checked out?

And yes, I expect a bunch of smart-assed, sarcastic remarks and probably a joke about making a deposit in a safe-deposit box
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah she was checking you out. From the looks of it, you probably had a booger in your nose that day. (just joking)

You should take her out dude! she definetely wants you to make a move. (eyeing u that often means she wants you to bone her)
 

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Lol, safe-deposit box...




Oh! Sorry.

Hey man, we weren't there, so we can't be absolutely sure if she was checking you out or not, but that's not important. All that matters is, do YOU wanna talk to her? Yea? Then forget stuff like "Did she smile at me?" and "Was she looking at me?", and just Cowboy The Fvck Up and go talk to her. Those thoughts are total AFC material. A DJ needs not these things.

Anyway, good luck, with whatever happens.
 

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Ace of Flames said:
Lol, safe-deposit box...




Oh! Sorry.

Hey man, we weren't there, so we can't be absolutely sure if she was checking you out or not, but that's not important. All that matters is, do YOU wanna talk to her? Yea? Then forget stuff like "Did she smile at me?" and "Was she looking at me?", and just Cowboy The Fvck Up and go talk to her. Those thoughts are total AFC material. A DJ needs not these things.

Anyway, good luck, with whatever happens.
Thanks, Ace
I still have noticed her looking in my direction, but have nothing but give a few glances back. Yeah, I know, I need to check to see if I still have a set down there, but I have been slammed at work the past couple days and just wore out tired, so have not done an approch.

Guess I am b*tching out because the usual crap as well...
 

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all women are always checking you out. she is respoding in a positive manner.


a single woman (or taken) is like a damn Radar Detector when it comes to men. you she can spot a catch within a 2 mile radius
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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