"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Warning: DO NOT ESCALATE IN DAY GAME + corrupt cops
- Thread starter ElStud
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Popeyes
Don Juan
Yea I was wondering something similar.trickz said:
Has Elstud ever posted a pic of himself? If so what does he look like?
Elstud what do you look like? What would you honestly rate yourself out of 10?
Not gonna lose another 30 seconds of my life that I'll want back on this thread. But you say you were banned from the student hall and there is another thread on here asking why you aren't banned. Trend?
Thing is bro is I'm SURE I've been noticed LONG before this. I KNOW the janitors and sh*t have seen me sarging up there, I know the staff there have seen me sarging in there. But guess what? UNTIL THAT ONE GIRL REPORTED ME, none of them said a word and if that girl hadn't reported me, none of them would have said a word.Popeyes said:
See it's more than about I made a girl feel uncomfortable. It's the fact that when you do, THE AUTHORITIES START WATCHING YOU LIKE YOU FREAKING RAPED HER OR SOMETHING. And also, I'm confident that if the police officers actually had ANY PROOF that I was HARASSING the girls, I wouldn't be banned right now. Cause guess what? There was no proof in there mind, other than he said, she said. I'm CONFIDENT, that if they had some sort of video proof or something, that showed me talking to the girls, they would see that I was not harassing ANYONE.
There is no PROOF, that I even touched the girls hand as she stated. There is no PROOF, that I was harassing girls other than eye witnesses. And anyone who knows anything about law, knows how unfaithful eye witnesses can be. Before the girl reported me, to the staff working there it's "oh, he's just talking to a girl, no big deal". After that, it's like I talk to any girl and it's like "OMG! HE'S HARASSING HER, EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE NO IDEA WHATSOVER WHAT HE'S SAYING TO HER". I mean god damn, the girl can be my freaking friend for all you know. This is what I mean by the fact that it's BS.
There is no proof whatsover to backup their accusations and they banned me from the hangout place, with little to no proof at all, other than eye witnesses.
The Logical Player
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1) Would you rather have been banned by the cops from the student center, or to have the boyfriends of the last 20 girls you creeped out kick your ass to within an inch of your life? I think you got off easy
2) No one warned you before, because everyone was too busy laughing at you behind your back for being "the creepy dorky mentally handicapped kid who doesn't leave people alone" - you don't know this though, because you have a mental disability, which does not let you UNDERSTAND how people feel or what people say.
3) You are not attractive the least bit - and the proof is in the reactions of the girls that you have talked to in the last 2 years. A good looking chump would stumble his way into a couple of dates over 2 years, and you didn't - I suggest you work on your damn looks already and stop living in a box!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid tuition just like every other student at school so what gives them the right to ban you with out the proper procedures. You can even call it discrimination.
If they warned you to not sarge and you still did then i'd understand but banning you without letting you change what they consider wrong that's not right.
I play ball at the school gym sometimes and there was this one guy who was RIDICULOUSLY loud and obnoxious who almost got into many fights including with me. my school security approached him and gave him a warning but he couldn't control himself and got kicked out later.
Imagine if he just got kicked out all abruptly without knowledge of what was going on.
You pay for the school and the experience it offers, if they're going to keep the ban on i say you ask for your money back since you rightly paid to use the facilities.
The Logical Player
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Popeyes
Don Juan
Why did you quote me?ElStud said:
Solomon
Master Don Juan
El stud vying for that number one spot man
hahaha
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
And? I take it you know nothing about law. Eye witnesses is usually the worst "proof" or "evidence" you can give anyone. First off, for all we know the eye witness could have something against me personally and just say "I was harassing girls" to smite me or something. The eye witness might not have even said "harassing" they could of just changed it to that. MOST LIKELY the eye witnesses already had a bad opinion of me and thus, simply assumed that because I was talking to girls, I the guy who was supposedly making girls uncomfortable, that I was harassing them.Alle_Gory said:
However, did the eye witnesses know what we were talking about? No. How in particular was I harassing them? Having a good conversation with them? That's all I remember. How did they know the girls weren't my friends? Exactly. And also I don't remember seeing them EVER talk to the girls I was talking to and asking them. My point, eye witnesses are horrible proof.
So basically I'm banned from there because of eye witness assumptions.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You fvcked up. It happens to everyone. Successful people admit it and learn from it. Losers blame everyone but themselves.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
theunflushables
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Mike, the thing is you don't know how many eyewitnesses there are or how many complaints there have been against you. It could be this isolated incident or it could be every time you've been in there and finally they had enough. If staff have seen you in there in the past it could be well documented in a file somewhere.ElStud said:
Also, I'm not sure how up to date your campus is, but many campuses have security cameras in every public place. Just think of how many times you might be on tape without knowing it. Sexual crimes are a big concern for college campuses. They could easily throw you out if they wanted to, or even worse get local authorities involved. Just be glad you got banned from a student center by college police. I don't think the real police would be as nice.
Igetit!
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Ohhh,I like this BB. Good analogy. +1 rep. point coming up.Bible_Belt said:
To be honest,I'd like to know exactly what it was that El Stud did or said that caused this girl to report him. I understand being upset at being banned from the hang out,but I'd focus more on what I did wrong so I can correct for the next time,instead of being angry at the school authorities or the girls themselves. It wasn't their fault. The school authorities were only doing their job,and the girl(s) were only responding to the emotion El Stud created in them. What,does El Stud think that the girl chose to feel uncomfortable?
But who's job is it to tell me? THE POLICE and they failed to tell me. Security cameras would even MORE SO ADMIT, that I did nothing wrong.theunflushables said:
Here's the 99% truth. Did I touch a girls hand? Yes, I am admitting this, I touched her hand. I'm PRETTY SURE she did not ask me to stop doing it either. I think the truth is, is that I went up to one girl started talking to her. She started talking to me. But THEN this random broad who I apparently talked to before and touched her hand, scolded me on touching that girls hand, even though she didn't show discomfort. So I think it's the broad that came in and scolded me who told. It wasn't until AFTER THAT, that the guy ****blocked that one set and gave me a warning and it wasn't until AFTER THAT that the police came.
One of my big arguments against this is, the girl should actually have told me to stop it if she was so calledly "uncomfortable" with it. If a girl just sits there, smiles and doesn't say sh*t, how is it MY fault if you're feeling uncomfortable? Exactly. This is like if a guy slapped a girls ass, she smiles and then later the guy learns that someone reported him making her uncomfortable. So after that guy warned me, I approached a few more sets where all I did was talk to them and conversate with them, a little about my major, but I admit I DID TELL THEM ABOUT MY SITUATION. That's ME, I'm REAL, with girls, I say what's on my mind. And if they're listening, genuinely interested and aint telling me to go away IT IS NOT HARASSMENT.
Tell me, how is having a genuine conversation HARASSMENT. What I'm pretty damn sure of is NONE OF THE GIRLS I TALKED TO, REPORTED ANYTHING ABOUT HARASSMENT. One girl I talked to, just stayed there after I talked to her. Another girl I talked to, just kept sitting there after I talked to her. ANOTHER girl I talked to, WAS IN THE EXACT SAME PLACE WHEN THE OFFICER ESCORTED ME OUT. So it isn't the girl's who felt I was harassing them, it's the eye witnesses who have no idea what they're talking about.
In that last set, it wasn't the GIRL who felt uncomfortable, it was the OFFICERS who ASSUMED, I was making the girl uncomfortable, even though she wasn't rejecting kino and we had a genuinely nice conversation. Really though, all the proof they need to see to see that the ban is BS, is video footage.
I mean, what reason do I to harass girls? I mean, getting laid isn't even that big of a deal to me. Harassment is when a girl tells you to go away and you keep talking. NONE OF THESE GIRLS TOLD ME TO GO AWAY NOR WHERE ANY OF THEM UNCOMFORTABLE WITH ME TALKING TO THEM. When a girl tells me to go AWAY, I GO. I AM NOT THE GUY WHO STAYS IN SETS AFTER THAT. This just goes to show that it's bigger BS and that I'm banned for something I didn't do.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.