*warning about Ganji games*

[The Bishop]

I have been seeing a lot of discussion about ganji games lately, and i have grown somewhat concerned with the possiblity of it beng employed as a main tool for attracting women. Before one should decide to add "gg'ing" to his arsenal, however, there are several things he must consider, and i have paraphrased these considerations in the following post.

How it works
To keep it short and simple, You cut off all contact with a female friend you have interest in, and wait for her to start to "miss" you and initiate herself. The thinking here is that after seeing you as more independent and less dependent on her, her interest level will rise. Ganji games are based on the principle that if you take something away from someone, they will begin to miss it, whatever that thing may be.


How it can be misused
There is one big reason why Ganji Games may be risky for some aspiring DJ's to use. Firstly, an afc may use the idea of GG as an excuse to not talk girls. They may think, "I talk to her once a week about homework in bio, thats often enough for GG to have effect" or something like this. This will certainly delay the development of an afc by a considerable amount, and may dissemble him from his own difficulties. Also, one must consider the specific situation he or she is in. In many cases the girl may simply not care too much. If that is the case, your relationship wasnt strong enough to GG in the first place.

In conclusion, Ganji Games should only be used by DJ's and employed as an occaisional tactic in order to possibly straigten out a female friend thats been a real b*tch lately.

 

[NEWBIE101]

Good thinkin bro!

 

[Zero0ne]

shinnn

 

[Porky]

Another note: Ganji Games last longer than a few days, and you can't let her see you at all. Sitting online waiting for her to IM you so you can ignore her isn't GG'ing - it's being a loser who has nothing better to do than sit online waiting for a girl to IM him. Actually get busy, don't just pretend to be.

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Give me a ****ing break...

 

[Vigilante7]

Ganji Games will never work with girls that have had relationships

Unless your just an amazing good looking guy with a good personality and body, any hot girl that has been in a relationship will dump ur azz fast because she is aware of her value.....this is highly NOT RECOMMENDED

 

[Biphoria]

Don't take up the ganji games unless you agree to one thing.

You will risk losing her.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Exactly. Gangji Games are also not the best idea for girls that are already very flaky and do not have a normal way of thinking.

 

[StudMeister]

Amen. Some girls aint right up in the head and the word crazy best describes them ... so messing with an already person = NOT a good idea.

 

[Da Game]

Ganji games? WTF? Why create slang for no reason? All it does is make this COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE TO UNDERSTAND IF I HAVEN'T BEEN READING THE BOARDS 6 HOURS A DAY FOR THE LAST MONTH LIKE ALL YOU COOL PEOPLE. Speak english.

Decent advice, but the unnecessarily complicated terminology gets me steamed.

EDIT: to avoid a nice side-dish of hypocrisy, I figured I should add something constructive here too.

From what little I can understand of the original post, this is a technique to move from "friend" to "boyfriend." This will ONLY work if the girl has some slight spark of romantic interest in you in the first place. I can't say this for certain, but I think it's possible for girls to be in the "well, I almost like him, but because [whatever reason] I'm not going to do a romantic relationship with him" (if a girl would care to confirm/deny this, it'd be cool) so you get stuck as a "friend by default." In this scenario, you can sneak out of the Friend Zone by increasing your perceived value. However, if you're already in the "exclusively friends zone" because she thinks you're too wimpy, too ugly, or whatever, then chances are if you start ignoring her she just won't give a damn.

Another reason this works is by triggering insecurity. It happens to guys too - if a girl starts ignoring you, you start to wonder "geez, what'd I do to make her not like me anymore?" (unless you're a cold, calculating machine like me who has no insecurity or worry whatsoever). This makes you appreciate it more when she DOES start paying attention to you again, because it relieves your insecurity. Same thing works on girls.

 

[TheManiac]

I know that this is sort of an old post but one last thought is if the girl is kinda into you and do you use this technique successfully to win her over and start dating her then you will have to maintain this scarcity rather often and give her time to miss you since thats what drew her to you to begin with, lol doesnt sound much fun dating someone you cant spend time with.

 

[AmgineEX]

RE

Aka Challenge.