"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warm pickups are harder than Cold pickups!

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I find that I have much more difficulty with warm pickups than with cold pickups.

Cold pickups are mystery written all over them.
The girl hasn't really formed a weak opinion of you yet.

But I find warm pickups to be much more challenging.
By a warm pickup I mean a girl that you have seen perhaps everyday for the past year or shorter period of time (6 months maybe), at work, at school, or somewhere else on a regular basis but never had the balls to really start a convo with her.

Its like you know her by face, you may even know a little bit about her by listening to her talk to others but you still haven't really "met" each other.
Its sort of awkward going up to her and saying well I'm a Don now and I have the balls to talk to you so lets get aquainted now.

PLEASE HELP!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you've seen her everyday, chances are she's already made an opinion about you, and there's nothing you can do to change it. Cold pickups, now you have a better chance b/c you are providing a first impression.
 

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Yes, as your summary shows, you understand my problem. Can you offer some practice advice in going about handling such a situation? I still want to talk to her and hookup!

Thanks!
 

Donald Kaufman

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If you've been standing awakwardly in the corner drooling I think it might be too late. So, you have nothing to lose. ;)

Occasionally I have used "Hi, are you new? Welcome." Maybe they'll think you're an idiot. Maybe they'll think it's funny. Maybe they'll think you're serious. If they play along it can be fun.
 
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