"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wardrobe and style resources? For dating, every day, and photos for OLD.

threeforfree

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Does anyone have any resources (websites, etc) for keeping up to date with the latest styles for mature guys? I'm 51 and I have my life together, so I want to come off as such, distinguished and successful BUT also be able to dress casually for whatever situations dictate it. A lot of the fashion pages seem to be pretty metrosexual or geared towards much younger men. I want to give off the traditional, strong male presence vibe in my photos. I'm getting interest currently from women on OLD anywhere from 25-mid 40s, and would like to keep it from mid-20s to 40 or so. I am told that I look much younger, I have a full head of hair, I'm pretty fit overall even when I don't hit the gym as much as I should. I whip myself back into shape pretty easily.

I have a couple outfits that I will wear now on dates, and those few combinations aren't bad IMO, but it seems like I'm struggling to put something decent together out of the clothing I have. I'm thinking a website where I can see those combinations so that I can add true style to my wardrobe would be a great help to me.

I read Richard Cooper's "Unplugged Alpha" and I agree with him that it would probably further help my OLD results to have professional photoshoots done, but I need the right clothes for that as well. I'm in a very rural area currently... if I go out at all, it's generally by myself, and the people around aren't exactly the most photogenic. I figure paying a bit to have a good photoshoot when I'm on one of my vacations (in a more attractive city LOL) would be well worth it. There's never any cameras out when I am out and about, and I don't often find myself in a situation that would scream "look at me" in an OLD profile, unfortunately.

I don't have a problem going out for the night, or traveling/vacationing by myself, but that never results in any photos of me except selfies, obviously.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Billtx49

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Check out blair.com and see if you like their casual mature style…
I get a few of my tops there
 

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A quick search of the site yielded this guys post, it’s pretty thorough:


P.S. learn how to use search, you’ll like it!
 

threeforfree

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A quick search of the site yielded this guys post, it’s pretty thorough:


P.S. learn how to use search, you’ll like it!
That's a great overall resource, I'm on point with a lot of that general info (the fitted blazer still needs to be done). I guess what I'm really getting at... as an older guy, are fashion tips like those for all ages? I don't want to dress like an average 50 year old, but I also don't want to look like a guy who is trying too hard to look younger. I do look pretty young for my age (I'd guess I look lower 40s), but I also don't want to look like I'm "trying too hard" (cue Steve Buscemi, "How do you do, fellow kids" meme).

I try to keep up with recent fashion trends, but when you search for that you end up mostly seeing examples of $250 undershirts and $1500 blazers LOL.
 
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