"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JimmyZ

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i'm going to sip the intro and just dive into the issue...

girl that I know, has confessed to having feeling for me, and I have confessed to having feelings for her.

Catch is, she is leaving for two months during the summer, and I will not be here when she comes back because I have accepted a position overseas.

The last time I saw her, three days, I told her that I knew that if I kissed her, she would kiss back, but that I didn't want to because I wanted to keep a healthy friendship etc. etc.. and that I didn't want to take from her but I wanted her to give. She didn't disagree but said that whether or not, there would be no positive outcome, at which point, I said: "That's the eternal question, is it etter to have loved and lost, or to have never loved." At which time, she shut up for the better part of 10 minutes.

I did not talk to her since until I found out today that she had a had a bug car accident but that she had come away from it safe...

Naturally I would gloat internally because she refused to sieze the moment... and then dismiss her from my thoughts until she comes back again....

But I actually felt concerned, man this bona fide suffering.... when you know you are right and can do nothing about it....

and please don't give me any of this you're too good for her ****, because I know that I am and I know that in reality she is the least of my worries...

I feel I need to act because the time is so short, I.e. she is leaving in 30 days.

So guys what do you think?

P.S. Before you bash me on the fact that I told her tat Ihave feelings for her, save yourself the trouble, I know why one should never do this, but there is a complex back-story...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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live in the moment son


you shoulda kissed her without all the corny words. Then hit it ASAP and build something beautiful with her even if it wasnt meant to last.
 

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thx.

I need more of this guys
 

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If you want us for your motivation then you have come to the wrong place.

Grab your balls and go for it. And stop the crap about love or whatever - you haven't even kissed her and only have 30 days. Take it for what it is.
 
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