Want to start, need some advice

[Maniax]

I'm a WBFC who hasn't had any experience with girls in the past 21 years of his life. Since I was a little kid, all of my "fantasies" of women have been submitting to them. It's a part of my behavior I hate, but I like automatically "turn" to it.

My natural reaction to thinking of a beautiful woman is automatically thinking of submitting to her. I guess in my little world up here (points to head), women control men. But I've always HATED this about myself, and I want to change it. I can definitely DO what the DJ bible says, and I think that by trying it, it might help. Is there anyone else out there who had a similar problem, or am I the only weirdo up in here?

Thanks

 

[Lifeforce]

I've been as low as you can go, so I know where you come from. Two words, Start weightlifting! Go over to HF section and read the stickies there. It will change your real life alot and give you a good attitude.

 

[Maniax]

It's true, I don't work out a lot. Actually, I have a problem with masturbating a lot. Are you suggesting that that has something to do with what I explained before? If so, could you please elaborate?

 

[Lifeforce]

Nah, I'm suggesting weight lifting because it'll give you a boost off your testosterone levels, it will make you look better and you will feel better. I mean, it will make things alot easier, if you look mediocre or worse then the girls won't be as open or friendly as if you look good. The negative effect off masturbating is overrated.

You say you submit to women, boosting your hormon levels when you train will give you a attitude that won't be submissive.

 

[Maniax]

That's a very good point. The problem is, I'm a compulsive masturbator, I mean on average of once every day for about 10 years. I'm sure that has had something with reducing my testosterone levels. I'm always tired after I do it and don't care about nothing. That's a good point. Any other ways of raising my testosterone levels?

 

[Lifeforce]

I don't know off any other way to raise your T- levels. Go with training, sign up at a gym, follow the instructions in the bulking or cutting guide. It can't be simpler. Wanking your dong has nothing to do with it.

 

[Dingus]

Once a day is not a compulsive masturbator. If you were doing it 3+ times a day you might be getting there.

 

[Maniax]

I'd have to disagree although I have no way of proving it. But yes, I think boosting my T-levels is a great idea. I'll tell you one thing, when I lay off of masturbation, I have more energy levels and I'm alot more aggressive. Whatever works for you I guess. Any other suggestions I'd appreciate.

 

[Maniax]

But once a day EVERY day? On Average. For 10 years? I dunno, maybe not, but I think it's too much. I'm going to make some journals about my experiences, let's try this. I'd appreciate some support.

 

[squirrels]

Are you competitive with anything?

 

[Doctor Who]

Honestly, Id say that this is more of a matter for a psychologist to help you with. This may be a fetish of sorts. Nothng wrong with it per se. But you seem distressed with it. This means that you need to think things out.

You can try some things to fix it on your own. The DJ bible is full of tips and tactics to increase your confidence. Try doing boot camp. I have not subjected myself to it, so I cant say how effective it is. The theory is sound though. Start small, and work your way up until you are in complete control of your social situation.

Do not focus on previous failures, or lack of experience. Focus on moving forward. If you dont want to be submissive, then dont allow yourself to fall into that situation. This will require trying new things, and leaving your comfort zone. As other members have said, go to the gym. It will be a symbol of your willingness to change. Plus you will feel and look better.

 

[Maniax]

Doctor Who, thanks, that's exactly what I planned to do. I'll let you guys know how it turns out every once in a while. Already started chap 1 of the bible, it's great. I feel better about myself already. You guys are the best

 

[thefonz]

come on, i use to think i was "submissive man" but it was just the matrix pulled over my eyes. All men love power over women deep down.....period (or over anybody for that matter)

there's got to be some experience in your life where you got a kick out of being in control, i mean in anything? Sports, school, video games, jokes, jumprope etc. where you were so good at it and girls took some notice. use that experience and apply it to attracting women. Ask yourself, What can i do in this situation so i can unconsciously let her know i'm in control. You gotta WORK at this though.....don't be passive

 

[Dapper Swindler]

If once a day is compulsive then I should be in an asylum. But yeah, I've found that if I stop it for just a few days my personality changes completely and my game is 10x better. It's like Popeye and spinach, only Popeye is some skinny white dude and spinach is not wacking it . . . yeah analogies.

Now are we done talking about masturbating in this thread?

 

[So pimp its scary]

Hi Maniax, good of you to join.

When I first found this site, it was quite sad. In short, I got burnt by the fugliest girl I've ever seen... then, I watched myself screw up with the hottest girl I had never met while she was all but giving my her phone number.

It's slow going at first.

The best thing that I would say to do is to read the bible for a few weeks, but don't let yourself get overwhelmed with information. The biggest thing to change is what you associate to going out and meeting people.

What type of job do you work? Please tell me its not computer related work...

You need to develop your social skills, take a part time sales job somewhere, this way you have to talk to people, get used to handling conversations... overcoming objections, getting used to setbacks and dissappointments.

Just make the decision to get it handled one way or the other.

 

[Maniax]

I'm getting much better at this stuff, bible is helping. Yes, I am a computer programmer, LOL. But I"m going to make myself the exception Thanx for the heads up.

 

[Mojo604]

Originally posted by squirrels
Are you competitive with anything?

Masturbating



lol