Want to make a move on her, but don't have time

[CARush]

So, I met this girl about 7 months ago. Until recenlty, I didn't considered dating her or anything because I had to deal with a lot of stuff. Some of her friends were constantly telling me to ask her out, but I never bothered.

So anyway, I recently started to find her very attractive. I've been trying to find a way to spend some 1-1 time with her, but it's a little complicated. One thing is that she's ALWAYS with her friends (the guys around her seem like losers though) so I can't pull her aside whenever I want to. I don't have much spare time, so I've tried to get her to make me company when I'm free...

Problem is, I've been thinking about this for a month, and I haven't been able to do anything! Every damn week I'm like "I'll go look for her today" but everyday something gets in my way. Usually, I find a friend on the way, so I completely forget about my plans with this girl. If it's not that, I just can't find her (she obviously has things to do too, but she's told me the days and time she's free).

It's not like I have no game to use with her, and I don't like waiting for the 'perfect' time either, but this stuff is driving me nuts. I know I can have her, and if I don't, at least I'll know I tried, but since I haven't, I feel like crap.(I'm in a very good mood most of the time, most of my friends say I always look happy, but whenever I'm by myself without anything to do is when I think about this situation and feel bad.)

So, any advice on how to resolve this? I planned to make a move on her tomorrow, but I'm not sure I'll even be able to...

 

[Joshski]

Saying you don't have the time is an excuse for being to scared.

The more you wait, the more your chances of getting her decrease.

 

[Farfetched]

Having people around her can be annoying for you but you know, you could just pull her aside and ask her out. It has a decent surprise element...

 

[888]

Isolating and closing is for when you're in a bar, not high school; the dynamics are a bit different. If you try to pull her away from her friends and get her number or ask her out, your intentions will be *painfully* obvious, and unless she is incredibly into you, you will get shot down.

(Btw, if you are curious, the reason this works in bars is that people there are usually looking to get laid, both men and women. When you isolate in a bar, its still pretty obvious that you want to hook up, but 1. Women are willing to look past that if they want a quick f*ck, and 2. If you do get shot down, you can quickly switch out to another set with no repercussions. In HS if you do something as bold as this, and get turned down, word is going to spread and your chances with other girls are pretty much nil)


Talk to her while she is with friends, merge into that group. You said that they all seem like losers, prove that to her. Dominate the set, show that you are the alpha and are better than her peers.

After a while, *she* will be the one who tries to get 1-1 time with *you*
When that happens, you're pretty much in the clear.

 

[CARush]

Actually, I just realized something today.

I thought I was starting to get a oneitis over this girl, multiple times over the past two months I've been worried about not spending time with her, yesterday I found out she likes some other guy (it's obv. my fault for not doing anything) but you know what? I don't give a ****.

Honestly, I have no idea why I became so obsessed with her. I mean, sure she's pretty and I like her personality,but there's at least over 1000 other girls at my school, there's plenty to choose from. Plus, what if she likes another guy? There's at least a 50% chance he'll scew up, no matter how attractive he is. Even if I still want to be with her, it won't be such trouble because I don't need her.

I'm glad I finally realized that her being with me will not make me happier. Sure, it's nice having a girl and all that, but seeing how happy I am with my life right now, I don't see the point of worring about one girl.

 

[MrP]

Right on. Day game (AKA High School), needs to be more subtle. Don't go doing Mode One style direct stuff.

The High School Attraction Formula: Give her a lot of attention, then give her a lot less attention + Passing her sh1t tests + Having a good amount of other girls that want you + Charisma = Oh yeah