You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Uhh ok...thank you for the enlightenment.Originally posted by blueangel83
Advice from a female:
Women do not like aholes and jerks. Men who jerk women around get played. Jerks and aholes are the reason why women cheat or lie.
Act and look like an ahole (look confident) but BE NICE. That means be polite, respectful, courteous, and show manners.
Stop giving bad advice. If you got approached by Brad Pitt, you wouldn't reject him because he didn't smile at you from a distance first.Originally posted by blueangel83
You want to approach a girl give her some time. Make your presense known by smilling at her from a distance.
AND THEN approach her. Females get turned off when random guys or strangers go up to them. It's like "WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?". Smile at her from a distance first, if she does not respond she is disinterested, if she reciprocates (smiles back) then you can come up. That way you are showing respect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.