"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Want to kick myself lol..

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So Sat night I was out with this cute girl, not too into but shes a real nice girl. I didn't even expect to be, she asked to meet for a few drinks around 7, I expected to go my own way after. So she tags along with me to go out to meet my friend. I felt like it would be rude to say she can't come. No harm, until this girl, much more my type, starts texting me, i had just met her the week before, apparently a friend's neighbor. She wants me to come meet her at a bar, the whole night I kept telling her I wasn't in the area AND hoping the girl I'm actually with would go off with her friends or go home. Finally the girl texting me ends with a "I'm going home, stop by and visit if you'd like..." at 1AM.
Never happened, the girl I was with didn't go anywhere until I dropped her off the next morning. So the one that was texting me that night was getting really sweet on me, finally last night I went with her to walk her dog. Big mistake, I was hungover, and she is not a convo starter, the walk was awkward, I had nothing to say. Despite already hitting it off with her once already. She said bye to me at about the half way back mark and hugged me like she would catch something if she made contact. There must've been a way to get out of the situation with the first girl without being a jerk? Especially since we really didn't have plans, she just hung around.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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drf408 said:
So Sat night I was out with this cute girl, not too into but shes a real nice girl. I didn't even expect to be, she asked to meet for a few drinks around 7, I expected to go my own way after. So she tags along with me to go out to meet my friend. I felt like it would be rude to say she can't come. No harm, until this girl, much more my type, starts texting me, i had just met her the week before, apparently a friend's neighbor. She wants me to come meet her at a bar, the whole night I kept telling her I wasn't in the area AND hoping the girl I'm actually with would go off with her friends or go home. Finally the girl texting me ends with a "I'm going home, stop by and visit if you'd like..." at 1AM.
Never happened, the girl I was with didn't go anywhere until I dropped her off the next morning. So the one that was texting me that night was getting really sweet on me, finally last night I went with her to walk her dog. Big mistake, I was hungover, and she is not a convo starter, the walk was awkward, I had nothing to say. Despite already hitting it off with her once already. She said bye to me at about the half way back mark and hugged me like she would catch something if she made contact. There must've been a way to get out of the situation with the first girl without being a jerk? Especially since we really didn't have plans, she just hung around.
You would have been better off "being a jerk" and getting laid while the other girl fussed over you leaving early, which would probably lead to another lay.
 

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Yeah, I struggle with that. At the moment its hard for me to do that especially since the girl I was with was very nice and really likes me. I usually need some motive to be a jerk..
 

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drf408 said:
Yeah, I struggle with that. At the moment its hard for me to do that especially since the girl I was with was very nice and really likes me. I usually need some motive to be a jerk..
How about the fact that she treats guys she's not interested in, who fawn over her, like ****?
 
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