I believe I've been placed on the sh*t list.
I've pissed her off several times now unintentionally of course, and was quickly dethroned, and relegated to the "used and string along" category. When I followed BB's approach of telling her I would be her man, but not her friend/b*tch, I was quickly given the silent treatment for a week.
Finally, she texts me the following after leaving me to go back to her BF:
“I forgive you in my mind, but I can’t in my heart. These seemingly small problems we’ve had have impacted me, and I can’t simply move them aside. It’s also easy to hold onto the anger toward you because I feel guilty for ever having such deep feelings toward you when I’m tied to someone else, and it’s better this way. Please forgive me, and please forgive all this that I’ve done.”
I told her I accept her apology, and agreed it was better...to which she replied:
"I always miss you <3"
We haven't talked since although I have seen her around often. I'd like to keep her as a FB, but this sounds like some highly unusual form of closure from a BPD sufferer, and she articulated it ridiculously well which has me convinced this might be a permanent closure on her part.
How do I wrangle this into a FB scenario? Did I AFC it up too much? She's bound to paint her BF black soon. Although NC doesn't seem to be working and it seems she's trying to get her hooks into the guy she dumped for me (Not the BF, another guy she was aiming to jump ship to. She dumped BOTH for me.).
I am currently spinning a few other plates, neither of which she knows about.
Also, she does have a flock of AFCs calling her constantly because she is a stripper. She claims they're just "regulars", but I'm convinced they're just dudes who she triangulated with, found fault in, and dumped.
I should also mention this r/s only lasted a few months.
Thanks in advance
I've pissed her off several times now unintentionally of course, and was quickly dethroned, and relegated to the "used and string along" category. When I followed BB's approach of telling her I would be her man, but not her friend/b*tch, I was quickly given the silent treatment for a week.
Finally, she texts me the following after leaving me to go back to her BF:
“I forgive you in my mind, but I can’t in my heart. These seemingly small problems we’ve had have impacted me, and I can’t simply move them aside. It’s also easy to hold onto the anger toward you because I feel guilty for ever having such deep feelings toward you when I’m tied to someone else, and it’s better this way. Please forgive me, and please forgive all this that I’ve done.”
I told her I accept her apology, and agreed it was better...to which she replied:
"I always miss you <3"
We haven't talked since although I have seen her around often. I'd like to keep her as a FB, but this sounds like some highly unusual form of closure from a BPD sufferer, and she articulated it ridiculously well which has me convinced this might be a permanent closure on her part.
How do I wrangle this into a FB scenario? Did I AFC it up too much? She's bound to paint her BF black soon. Although NC doesn't seem to be working and it seems she's trying to get her hooks into the guy she dumped for me (Not the BF, another guy she was aiming to jump ship to. She dumped BOTH for me.).
I am currently spinning a few other plates, neither of which she knows about.
Also, she does have a flock of AFCs calling her constantly because she is a stripper. She claims they're just "regulars", but I'm convinced they're just dudes who she triangulated with, found fault in, and dumped.
I should also mention this r/s only lasted a few months.
Thanks in advance