Want to do it right this time.

[Gandhi]

Ok, I'm a senior ad she's a sophomore. Met her at a basketball game in January, started texting for a few days, went on a date. Then I went full on AFC, I didn't have alot of experience with women..... So several(3 or 4) weeks ago I broke off communication. I'm going to a local college next year so I will be home pretty often (We live 2 houses away from eachother coincidentally.) Out of nowhere last week she sent me a follower request on Twitter (I had stopped following her too.) I accepted the request a week later, I saw it was her birthday 3 days ago and sent her a text that said "happy birthday, hope you have a good day." she replied a day later "Sorry I just received your text from some reason, thanks alot though!" Then yesterday I saw she tweeted something about someone dying so I sent her a text asking what happened, and if someone died. she replied "yeah" so I didn't say anything further cause that ***** answer pissed me off. Then I got a text like 2 hours later saying it was her grandma. So I guess she was just testing me with the one word reply to see if I was still acting AFC. I sent her a reply that said "I'm really sorry to hear that, I'm off school now so if you need someone to talk to I'm here for ya!" she replied "Thanks that really means a lot." My question is where do I go from here? I really doubt she will talk to me. I am a pretty intimidating guy (6'4, somewhat built, Really confident acting.) And she always seemed a little scared of making first contact with me. I don't want to come off as AFC ever again so how can I play this right? Thanks alot guys!!!

 

[LearningSlowly]

You lost this fish when you let it off the hook (broke off communication). There is no coming back. If she flirts or leads you on, it is only to know that she could still have you and boost her ego.

Move on man, fresh girls are better than ones with a history.

 

[Gandhi]

I thought no contact sometimes brought them back? I really don't think I lost her..... she doesn't act like it. I just want to know how to play this. Should I be the one to ask her to hang out? Or should I wait for her to? I don't want to come off as still desperate

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

If you really don't want to let her go then ask her to hang out once more, if things don't escalate and you don't make any progress, then let her go and move on.

You only wait around for the woman to ask to see you if you know she has high interest in you. Otherwise, why is she going to care? Send her a text or better yet call her and ask her to hang out, if she says yes than go make things happen. If she says no then don't bother, college girls are way better than the 16 year olds in high school. You don't want that added drama.

For the record, I don't think her responding with "yeah" was a test to see if you were AFC, if her grandmother actually did die, she was probably very upset and most likely dealing with things that people deal with during a death (preparations, seeing family members, crying, grieving, etc). She probably doesn't want to be texting you up during a time like that.