"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Want to be more, but she wants to be friends

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I've known this girl for about 3 weeks and we where getting off really well. Today we where chilling together and I came in for the kiss... and I did , but it didn't seem right to me. After that she was really quiet and to me it felt that something was wrong.
Later on today when I Im'ed her she said "We should be friends" :mad:

I was kinda ticked off and when I asked her why she just kept saying we should be friends.

I have a good idea what to do but I really want her back

any advice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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3 weeks and you just kissed her now, thats why "you should just be friends"
 
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eminence said:
3 weeks and you just kissed her now, thats why "you should just be friends"
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Im looking for a LTR plus I'd rather get to know them
 
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Lamia said:
Im looking for a LTR plus I'd rather get to know them
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tip: the best relationships fomr when you're not expecting them too. Relax. If you're all uptight like "nevermind she does so-and-so and i cant deal with that." then you're limitting your options; its called tunnel vision, you're basically passing up all your chances with amazing[or not so amazing] girls because you think you know exactly what you want.
but you dont.

and 3 weeks for one kiss? thats WAY too long.
3 dates and first kiss? Still too long. unless shes a jewish never-been-kissed. in that instance i told her best friend i would leave if i didnt get a makeout lol.

work on your confidence, your self-image, your style and everything BUT getting a girl. its hard to believe, but you cant go chasing tail without multiple bullets up your sleeve. feel me?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's easier to get some action going first before getting to know her. That way leads to dating/relationships. Getting to know them first leads to LJBF.
 
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Lamia said:
I've known this girl for about 3 weeks and we where getting off really well. Today we where chilling together and I came in for the kiss... and I did , but it didn't seem right to me. After that she was really quiet and to me it felt that something was wrong.
Later on today when I Im'ed her she said "We should be friends" :mad:

I was kinda ticked off and when I asked her why she just kept saying we should be friends.

I have a good idea what to do but I really want her back

any advice?
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You weren't setting yourself up as a potential lover, or you weren't getting her comfortable enough with your touch, kino etc...
 
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