"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Want to be more, but she wants to be friends

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Lamia

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I've known this girl for about 3 weeks and we where getting off really well. Today we where chilling together and I came in for the kiss... and I did , but it didn't seem right to me. After that she was really quiet and to me it felt that something was wrong.
Later on today when I Im'ed her she said "We should be friends" :mad:

I was kinda ticked off and when I asked her why she just kept saying we should be friends.

I have a good idea what to do but I really want her back

any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eminence

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3 weeks and you just kissed her now, thats why "you should just be friends"
 
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eminence said:
3 weeks and you just kissed her now, thats why "you should just be friends"
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Im looking for a LTR plus I'd rather get to know them
 
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Patrick124

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Lamia said:
Im looking for a LTR plus I'd rather get to know them
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tip: the best relationships fomr when you're not expecting them too. Relax. If you're all uptight like "nevermind she does so-and-so and i cant deal with that." then you're limitting your options; its called tunnel vision, you're basically passing up all your chances with amazing[or not so amazing] girls because you think you know exactly what you want.
but you dont.

and 3 weeks for one kiss? thats WAY too long.
3 dates and first kiss? Still too long. unless shes a jewish never-been-kissed. in that instance i told her best friend i would leave if i didnt get a makeout lol.

work on your confidence, your self-image, your style and everything BUT getting a girl. its hard to believe, but you cant go chasing tail without multiple bullets up your sleeve. feel me?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Shocker

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It's easier to get some action going first before getting to know her. That way leads to dating/relationships. Getting to know them first leads to LJBF.
 
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Lamia said:
I've known this girl for about 3 weeks and we where getting off really well. Today we where chilling together and I came in for the kiss... and I did , but it didn't seem right to me. After that she was really quiet and to me it felt that something was wrong.
Later on today when I Im'ed her she said "We should be friends" :mad:

I was kinda ticked off and when I asked her why she just kept saying we should be friends.

I have a good idea what to do but I really want her back

any advice?
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You weren't setting yourself up as a potential lover, or you weren't getting her comfortable enough with your touch, kino etc...
 
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