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Want To Be Friends W/ Benifits with A Girl That Only Wants A Relationship

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I need to convince a girl to only be friends with benifits with me while shes too sturbon and wants the whole boyfriend thing and I dont, shes not good enough.

I never really liked her that much and I always just accidentaly used all the dj techniques on her mainly bc I really didn't care about her. She said something like, "i've hooked up with hot boys before and felt nothing, with you its different."

I kept saying that I just want to be friends with benifits but she dosent want that. I donno why I hang around her, i'm too good for her, its just shes a really good friend of mine and at the moment im not getting any other ass until school starts up and hopefully girls will see that I changed 180 degrees the other way around from my afc'ness. I like her just not as a gf, just as a friends with benifits on the dl. I cant just next her bc its a different situiation, shes a really good friend of mine and knos me better than my mother. So, How would a dj convince a girl to get on the fvck buddy level and not want the boyfriend crap? Like I said i'm too good for her.
 

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a guy could lie and say he wanted a relationship too (un dj like and wont last long)

a guy could enter into a relationship just to get the booty (again un dj like and wont last long either , waste of time)

a guy could be honest and say he isnt looking for a steady relationship right now hoping the girl would like him enough to do him anyway (however why she should do this if this isnt what she is looking for? waste of time on her part)

or a guy could just find another chick to mess with, one that wants the same sort of thing he does and wont be on his butt every dang day about making a committment to her (best dj answer i can think of)
 

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This girl is as clingly as f*ck and nothing is gonna work. I'm somewhat embrassed to say that shes my gf, but at the moment im getting no other ass.
a guy could be honest and say he isnt looking for a steady relationship right now hoping the girl would like him enough to do him anyway (however why she should do this if this isnt what she is looking for? waste of time on her part)
This is the first thing I did and she did nothing but whine and say I hate that.
a guy could enter into a relationship just to get the booty (again un dj like and wont last long either , waste of time)
This is where im at unfortunately, whateva.

Note: The truth is I used the I dont want a gf only bc I dont want her as a gf, just like a fb but shes not for that, she likes me too fu.kin much.
 

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dude, she isnt going to give it up without the relationship and you dont want her like that so my suggestion is to next her.

id rather be single and use my own imagination under my own covers than have to date someone i dont like.

you are wasting your time that you could be using on doing your own thing or checking out other girls that you really do like.
 

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I need to convince a girl to only be friends with benifits with me while shes too sturbon and wants the whole boyfriend thing and I dont, shes not good enough.


Don't waste your time trying to 'convince' a girl to do anything. It's to much work and not worth it in the end. Things should flow smoothly and naturally anyway.

I never really liked her that much and I always just accidentaly used all the dj techniques on her mainly bc I really didn't care about her.

No such thing as using DJ techniques on accident. You probably hadn't had any in a while, so you figured what the hell 'let me see if i can get some a$$'.

"i've hooked up with hot boys before and felt nothing, with you its different."


Yeah, sure...

I kept saying that I just want to be friends with benifits but she dosent want that. I donno why I hang around her,

If she doesn't want that, then stop poking her and fine someone that DOES want that. She's giving you some pu$$y, that's why you hang around her.

I cant just next her bc its a different situiation, shes a really good friend of mine and knos me better than my mother.

If she's a really good friend of yours, you would stop trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want. Stop using her for your own $exual gratification, work on your friendship with her and find someone else to bump uglies with.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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