"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Want to ask my T.A. out for coffee...

Shivastorm_88

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O.K. I unfortunately didn't time my **** correctly, got late at the tutorial (it's a mandatory tutorial) and at the end there is a quiz so I couldn't go talk to her, and this was the last session; in other words, story of my life, I always wait for the last minute and then get screwed over!

However, she had given us her email address, so I was thinking of trying it out via e-mail. What's the worse that can happen anyways? Get no reply? Q_Q much

Anyways! I was thinking of breaking the ice with an e-mail to thank her for the lessons she's given and throw in an inside about my doing yoga (she had commented on that once during the lessons) and if she replies with a somewhat significant message, than try to go for the kill with something of the lines of:

"I thought it would have been inappropriate to ask you out in a class situation, so here we are instead, faced with a good ole situation of "asking by email"! So how about it, care to join me for coffee" Or whatever, basically ask in a very light tone, I'm not there yet so not really concerned about it.

Any suggestions guys?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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You're treading dangerous waters in a number of ways.

First, in many instances, school policy forbids relationships between TA's and students. If that is true, she is risking her reputation for you. Are you that attractive?

Second, she is essential in a workplace by being a TA and you're hitting on her in her workplace. The "professional woman shield" tends to kick in during these circumstances and she may not be receptive at all to getting picked up.

Third, she is in a position of authority by being the TA. That automatically puts you in a weak position. It will be an uphill battle for you to be "alpha" in her eyes since you are like her "student". Maybe that's why you feel shy about approaching her and want to do it in an e-mail in the first place.

It may be convenient because she's a sitting target being your TA & all, but I suggest you forget about her and sarge other girls.
 

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I'm with the others. It's very inappropriate.

You haven't even gotten your final grade yet. To invite her out borders on trying to bribe her.

Even if you got your grade and are done with her academically, it's still not appropriate.

If she has half a brain, she would refuse out of fear you would brag about it. I'm not saying YOU would brag, but most guys would and her reputation at school would be hurt.

I'm sure she is attractive, but honestly, don't go there.
 
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