"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My g/f has cheated me and a friend of mine. She has dated with two of us at the same time.

Finally, I have found this and very angry at her. She apologied me sincerely and wanted me forgive her but I said very bad words to her. Now I find that I still LOVE her SO MUCH and want her back. However, she told me my words make her hurt too. She is now very reluctant. I do not know how to heal our relationship and get her back. I REALLY REALLY LOVE HER NOW.

Can any one give me an advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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missyousomuch said:
My g/f has cheated me and a friend of mine. She has dated with two of us at the same time.

Finally, I have found this and very angry at her. She apologied me sincerely and wanted me forgive her but I said very bad words to her. Now I find that I still LOVE her SO MUCH and want her back. However, she told me my words make her hurt too. She is now very reluctant. I do not know how to heal our relationship and get her back. I REALLY REALLY LOVE HER NOW.

Can any one give me an advice?
Grow some fvcking balls. While you pour your heart out, she's getting pounded by a guy with guts! She's done it before, she will do it again. Be a man and put this woman in her place.

And please, do not insult the love word like that.

Throw her to the curb and find women who are actually worth your time.
 

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missyousomuch said:
My g/f has cheated me and a friend of mine. She has dated with two of us at the same time.

Finally, I have found this and very angry at her. She apologied me sincerely and wanted me forgive her but I said very bad words to her. Now I find that I still LOVE her SO MUCH and want her back. However, she told me my words make her hurt too. She is now very reluctant. I do not know how to heal our relationship and get her back. I REALLY REALLY LOVE HER NOW.

Can any one give me an advice?
man up. she cheated on you
thats it..

and trust me.. if a girl cheats once. she will do it again. I PUT MONEY ON THAT!
best thing is cut off all contacts and move on.. try ur best.

shes not worth it dude if she cheated.
 

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We have had a great time together and she was very kind to me. She has spent a lot of effords to me and so have I. That is why I still want to rescure this relationship. Should I break this relationship for her first time mistake. She told me that she was undecided who she love. That is why it happened.
 

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missyousomuch said:
We have had a great time together and she was very kind to me. She has spent a lot of effords to me and so have I. That is why I still want to rescure this relationship. Should I break this relationship for her first time mistake. She told me that she was undecided who she love. That is why it happened.
buuulllllshhiiitttt

if wanted to rescure the relationship then why did she risk it?

she wants to keep u around because she can. she wants to fuk with ur mind because she can

snap out of it.
u should break the relationship for good. she cheated on u guy.. she didnt lie to u.. she didnt hit u.. she fuking CHEATED ON u.. BIG time disrespect..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's true, there is no bigger spit in the face than getting cheated on.

If she gave a damn about you, she wouldn't have done it in the first place. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Now you've got to show some manhood and put this woman in her place, or I promise, you will get hurt again.

You can keep telling yourself she's changed, she's a good person, and she wants you, but you bloody well know that's a load of crap. You know you have to get rid of her and stop all contact with her, stop looking for excuses not to.

Be a man, not a coward.
 

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Take her back. You two are a perfect match. She's a lying cheating ***** and you're a spineless wussbag who lets her get away with it.

Come on buddy, pull your head out of your ass. You'll see things much more clearly when you do.
 

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Lucas718 said:
Come on buddy, pull your head out of your ass. You'll see things much more clearly when you do.
yeah, its dark up there!!!!!

has anyone noticed this is his first thread?
 

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MIssusomuch,

She did the classic switch on you. It went from her doing something totally wrong to you hurting you her so bad that she can no longer be with you.

WTF???

You're begging and pleading for someone who was screwing you and a friend at the same time????

She throws the heartbreaking apology including the tears at you and you respond with a few choice well deserved words? What does she expect? I'm sure she would have pulled out a knife and cut your gonads off had you done the same thing with a friend of hers (by the way she probably has them in her hand right now). Don't buy into her "I'm the victim here" crap. She will play the role until she feels she has you in check. Don't allow her to do this.

If you tolerate this kind of behavior it sends the message that your limits are very broad.

Respect yourself and get the hell out.

Later
 

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Any thread which reminds me of songs by Take That, should never have existed in the first place.

and yeah, get the hell out of there. You'll be over her quicker than you know.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think you are trolling or you are a major chump!

You need to re-examine yourself and get some dignity before you think about having a relationship. If you don't sort yourself out now, you will go from one failed relationship to another and get walked over your whole life!
 

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Thank you!!!

Thank you for your advice. I appreciate it. It is my feeling because we had very good time together. It is difficult to accept the truth but I think of it. All you are right. I need self-respect.
 

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missyousomuch said:
We have had a great time together and she was very kind to me. She has spent a lot of effords to me and so have I. That is why I still want to rescure this relationship. Should I break this relationship for her first time mistake. She told me that she was undecided who she love. That is why it happened.
Of course you will miss her. We all miss people we become attached to, especially women. However, why would you want to be with a woman who disrespected you? Break the relationship for good and let someone else deal with the BS.
 

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missyousomuch said:
Thank you for your advice. I appreciate it. It is my feeling because we had very good time together. It is difficult to accept the truth but I think of it. All you are right. I need self-respect.
Stay strong, and good luck.

Plenty more fish in the sea buddy :up:
 

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run

walk, jog, run away dude... don't waste anymore time with this girl... You've lost trust in her and she won't trust you because she doesn't trust her self... The relationship will suck so bad... and she's gonna cheat on your again, maybe 6 months down the road, maybe a year 1/2...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rule #1. You cheat, your out the door no expcetions, no 2nd chances. Nothing. Respect... you lose that move on asap. Any girl that cheats it makes it that much easier to walk away.
 

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your first step should be take an english class

second, change your name..

seriously, walk away and don't look back. Walking away will not only make her realize what a mistake she made because you obviously have other positive things in your life than this ***** (even if you don't it will give her that impression while you work on it) and she will feel left out. Everytime you have contact with this girl that disrespected you with ur friend nonetheless, all you're saying to her is "i can't get anyone else and I have no one else in my life so I have to keep coming back to this **** situation."
 

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Missusomuch,

Out of curiousity, did you confront the other guy? I mean, he's your friend....

There is a certain code, which appears to have been violated. How did you handle it? The reason I ask is... I have a close friend (close enough to go on vacation with) who is working a girl I am trying to get over. He is quite aware of my feelings, but seems to have been sucked into her web. He is very secretive but things to do slip out.

Maybe, someone out there can offer some advice. Not specific to her but to how I deal with my friend. Anyone?

Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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