"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wandering Eyes - Is it so wrong?

Sweetcheeks

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Is it wrong to "check out" other attractive women when you are with your LTR?

I saw an episode of the "GUY SHOW" a while back, where they had a camera crew out on the street filming guys walking down the street with their dates, their wives, even their ENTIRE FAMILIES (kids and all) as they had a paid professional model walk past going the other way.

In all cases they aired (on television)! the guys would check out the girl. The host would then, a few seconds later, confront the "victim" in front of their date/wife, and play back what they caught on camera.

In my mind, checking out a hot chick is a reflex, like pulling your hand away from a hot stove. I think it's unfair of women to expect a man not to get an eyeful. It would be like expecting a female to resist the draw of the shoe store.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Its not wrong to do it. Its just not fun if your LTR sees you doing it because you'll have to deal with her insecurity damage shield.
 

stevera004

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Originally posted by Sweetcheeks

In all cases they aired (on television)! the guys would check out the girl. The host would then, a few seconds later, confront the "victim" in front of their date/wife, and play back what they caught on camera.
If the guy had balls he would tell the host to fvck himself. Remove yourself from the matrix.
 

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My rules - I'll look at who I damn well please. So can the woman. I'll even point out handsome men for her occasionally.

I have never had a gf have trouble with this, because I make it clear that I am not going to go through life with blinkers on. If me checking out other women makes them insecure... is that such a bad thing?
 

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This has never been a problem for me in LTR's. Me and my g/f's at the time in fact usually talk about who are the hotties actresses / women at the time. So checking out women is right up the same ally, involve her in it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree that it's a reflex, more or less. I made one gf cry because I ogled another woman. Talk about insecure. My ex-wife got seriously p!ssed off when I ogled other women, and another gf couldn't care less (but I did try to be discreet in all cases, apparently not successfully all the time). There's no harm in it, as far as I'm concerned.

What bugs me is that women who get mad at their men when they ogle other women, but then get equally upset if nobody ogles them. Those women are usually attention wh0res, anyway.
 

blueangel83

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I'm a female and honestly, I don't mind wandering eyes at all.

I even prefer to check out an attractive female with my man (I'm single ;) ) and maybe even have a discussion about her. I'm no lesbian, just very open minded.

Speaking of wandering eyes, I was sitting at a lounge earlier and there was this couple playing with their hands :confused: etc... When the male looked at me, the girlfriend started acting up. She was giving me dirty looks, I just smiled right back at her. I decided to stick around for a bit to piss her off haha :p
 

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Originally posted by blueangel83
I'm single ;) )
Blueangel, if I would invite you to a candle-light-dinner and I would cook your favourite meal and play your favourite songs and everything is fine and smooth and beautiful. And if I would treat you the best a man could ever treat you. Would you do the same for me once too?
 

DonJuanMonk

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Yeah, it is bad in the eyes of your girl, just try to record that hotties image in your mind and relish in deep thought about banging that other girl while you're physically in the presence of your girl. I do it all the time.
 

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Of course it's wrong. It shows you're an animal that can't control himself and disrespects his date. It's not a dealbraker though. Some women don't mind that at all.

I remember once ogling a hot chick while I was with my gf. She made a comment on it and I replied "Bah, I don't even like large boobs" (hot chick was DD). My gf was so happy after that, you have no idea (B-size only). I would have never believed it if I hadn't seen it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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