"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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De La Soul

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I say never be complete. I say stop being perfect. I say let's evolve. Let the chips fall where they may. - Tyler Durden

Many of you, reading this now, are searching for completeness, or perfection. Looking for that foolproof plan to get you laid, to get you a girlfriend, or to become Mr. Popular. If any of these are you, you need to wake up and realise that there are no foolproof plans. Nothing can guarantee you of a girlfriend, of getting laid, or of becoming popular. Nothing. Agreed?

So why the obsession with completeness, with finding fail-safe methods?? Lesson number one, is that there is no such thing as perfection, and that only you can bring happiness into your life.

I dont want to die without any scars. - Tyler Durden

The most common way of getting rejected, is the self-rejection. This has already happened to you. It probably happens to you at least five times every day. You see a girl whom you would like to f*ck, it could be at a party, on the street, at a bar, or in a restaurant. And what do you do about it? Sweet f*ck all. Every guy does this.
What's the point of rejecting yourself? It's no fun at all.

I'm not saying approach every hot woman you see, just don't die without any scars. They're some of the things that make life worth living. If you've just come back from a bar/club without scoring (getting a number, getting a kiss, getting laid, or getting some scars) I can tell you why. You've rejected yourself. Let other people inflict your wounds and give you their loving, instead of banging your head against a wall and giving your right hand a work-out.

Stop trying to be perfect! I don't want to die without any scars - do you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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good post de la soul, i think thats the main reason everyone comes to this site , fear of rejection, my motto really is simply "u live u learn" when i go out. sure u get get rejected from time to time, but hey thats life. back in my afc days, my main problem was , when i went out 4 a nite, i had the soul idea of 1 woman in my head. I would never enjoy my night as i was to concerned on making an impression on ms x. Problem was i didnt make an attemt at her WHY, fear of rejection neway you have hear all that b4...


damn i dont want scars ethier!


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"people like you are a dime a dozen, people like me only come around once in a lifetime."
 

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BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMP!!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Isn't it interesting how now, 8 years later, people still repeat the same tips over and over again.

It just shows us that there is nothing more to read, nothing more to know. If you have the same feeling, it's time to stop reading and to start fighting!
 

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deserves the bumps.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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