"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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De La Soul

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I say never be complete. I say stop being perfect. I say let's evolve. Let the chips fall where they may. - Tyler Durden

Many of you, reading this now, are searching for completeness, or perfection. Looking for that foolproof plan to get you laid, to get you a girlfriend, or to become Mr. Popular. If any of these are you, you need to wake up and realise that there are no foolproof plans. Nothing can guarantee you of a girlfriend, of getting laid, or of becoming popular. Nothing. Agreed?

So why the obsession with completeness, with finding fail-safe methods?? Lesson number one, is that there is no such thing as perfection, and that only you can bring happiness into your life.

I dont want to die without any scars. - Tyler Durden

The most common way of getting rejected, is the self-rejection. This has already happened to you. It probably happens to you at least five times every day. You see a girl whom you would like to f*ck, it could be at a party, on the street, at a bar, or in a restaurant. And what do you do about it? Sweet f*ck all. Every guy does this.
What's the point of rejecting yourself? It's no fun at all.

I'm not saying approach every hot woman you see, just don't die without any scars. They're some of the things that make life worth living. If you've just come back from a bar/club without scoring (getting a number, getting a kiss, getting laid, or getting some scars) I can tell you why. You've rejected yourself. Let other people inflict your wounds and give you their loving, instead of banging your head against a wall and giving your right hand a work-out.

Stop trying to be perfect! I don't want to die without any scars - do you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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good post de la soul, i think thats the main reason everyone comes to this site , fear of rejection, my motto really is simply "u live u learn" when i go out. sure u get get rejected from time to time, but hey thats life. back in my afc days, my main problem was , when i went out 4 a nite, i had the soul idea of 1 woman in my head. I would never enjoy my night as i was to concerned on making an impression on ms x. Problem was i didnt make an attemt at her WHY, fear of rejection neway you have hear all that b4...


damn i dont want scars ethier!


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"people like you are a dime a dozen, people like me only come around once in a lifetime."
 

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BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMP!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Isn't it interesting how now, 8 years later, people still repeat the same tips over and over again.

It just shows us that there is nothing more to read, nothing more to know. If you have the same feeling, it's time to stop reading and to start fighting!
 

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deserves the bumps.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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