Walking Away or Saying Goodbye?

[sdg6656]

Usually when I have any sort of issue with a women that's lost interest, broken up with, found one up, etc, i simply cut contact with them and get on with my life. However, with this most recent girl in line, i simply failed to make a move when she offered it, and she's lost interest all together. we're suppose to hang out saturday, but she'll flake no doubt, and i've got a question about handling it. should i simply acknowledge that it's over, cease contact, and date new women (one of which is coming over to hang out today actually) or is some sort of final "adios, good luck, see ya" message necessary?

Truthfully, someone who is so rude as to flake on me an hour before hanging out and blatantly lie to my face about the reasons why simply isn't worth my time, but i just wanted a second opinion.

 

[sdg6656]

Any input?

 

[blackbelt2k]

why burn bridges?? so what if she flakes out...there was a thread a few days ago about pinging...search for it... if she flakes out, her loss

 

[decades]

don't acknowledge her at all and if she reconnects with you, make her jump through hoops NAKED before you allow her to be in your presence, and then only if she remains naked.

 

[penkitten]

dude, you are going about things the wrong way.

first of all, you are just suppose to hang out sat.
hang out is a friendly thing, and hanging out with folks is great, but if something better comes up then the other person shouldn't get offended because after all it is just suppose to be a hang out. right?

second, you are really afraid that she isn't going to show, however you don't know that she won't show.

where is this hang out suppose to happen and when?

 

[tmpgstx]

dude, you are going about things the wrong way.

first of all, you are just suppose to hang out sat.
hang out is a friendly thing, and hanging out with folks is great, but if something better comes up then the other person shouldn't get offended because after all it is just suppose to be a hang out. right?

second, you are really afraid that she isn't going to show, however you don't know that she won't show.

where is this hang out suppose to happen and when?

Right there gentlemen is how different girls and boys think. Penkitten looks at hanging out as 'just friends' for the sake of hanging out, just as she would with a girlfriend.

Us guys know we hang out for one reason, and that is to 'get at her'.

 

[SomethingClever]

don't acknowledge her at all and if she reconnects with you, make her jump through hoops NAKED before you allow her to be in your presence, and then only if she remains naked.

I agree. Go on with your life as if nothing happened. If you can, try to flirt with other girls in front of her, do things that will make her value you more. Like dating women who she considers is hot or dating her friends. INCREASE YOUR VALUE

 

[typical]

Right there gentlemen is how different girls and boys think. Penkitten looks at hanging out as 'just friends' for the sake of hanging out, just as she would with a girlfriend.

Us guys know we hang out for one reason, and that is to 'get at her'.

Exactly chicks dont see the whole hanging out going to the movies or having coffee or lunch as a date, for them its just meeting someone new, your job as the guy is to make the move when and if she does decide to turn up and meet you. Get it ? Well here its easy your first move is to run your game and she runs hers she runs hers you get the digits ask her to hang out or meet up or whatever, then as a guy its your job to do somethign about it.

Girls dont see or I should say the female sex just come and stand there its your job as the male to make the first move and do something about it, just dont get offended when she doesnt show up.

 

[penkitten]

Exactly chicks dont see the whole hanging out going to the movies or having coffee or lunch as a date,.

movies, lunch = date
he didnt say where they were hanging out yet...
thats why i asked him

hanging out around someones house = hanging out

 

[sdg6656]

Finished

Well, Saturday came and went yesterday with a no show of this girl. Not a call or text, just a complete flake. At this point there’s not much I can do but get on with things and forget about it. Funny how not three weeks ago she promised she would “make time to hang out no matter what” and flirted with me, but now I don’t even get the common courtesy of a call to cancel. It’s more than obvious to me that she’s turned her attention to someone new, and I’ve quit all contact and taken her number off my phone. I may be stubborn, but blatant disrespect and always being “busy” are pretty clear to me that she wants me out of her life, and it’s no problem. This really drives home to me the importance of striking when the iron is hot, and just how fast someone can loose interest when you don’t’ make a move.

Still, I've been successfull enough in the past year with dating to understand that you can't win every time. I'm getting back into an exercise routine, persuing my pilot's license, and pushing ahead with my science classes towards my MD, and just got invited to two parties this week, so I'm getting back on track to success. Besides, one of my chick friends is really eager to introduce me to her attractive friend, who she says is "just like me," and im suppose to hang out with them sometime soon.

Just wanted to say thanks for the input you guys gave, sometime it takes a firm kick in the @ss to get things moving.

 

[sdg6656]

Finished

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[sdg6656]

Na

Any experienced dons ever go through something like this? I've got a gut feeling that she'll always see me as the loser who never made a move down the road, should i even meet her there.

 

[sdg6656]

I'm Becoming Pathetic.

This is so stupid, I can't seem to shake one from my head. Not six weeks ago there was this fantastic chemistry, and now there's nothing, zero. I'm keeping busy with a full schedule, but can't get over this. It's like I keep cycling from highs to lows throughout the day, even when im with friends my mind goes back to this mess. The worst part of this is having to submit to the fact that I went from being the prize to not even being worth talking too, I've never faced rejection before so I'm not quite sure how to handle it all. I've cut off contact, but the urge for closure is d@mn near overpowering. This profoundly sucks.

 

[bigstik]

If she is hot, she probaly expected you to do more to show your interest. Maybe she is thinking the same thing you are. Did you call HER on saturday? She is probaly thinking the EXACT same shiat you are, this is actually kind of funny.