I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
^Cosign.BlackMack177 said:tryin to holler at a chick that is surrounded by dudes is lame. All you become is another dog trying to get the bone.
I would just say screw her and find another chick and later if she is finally able to breath i would go maybe talk to her. But by that time she's gotten her attention filled up and her shields are gonna be less receptive of you even if you seem to have better game,looks, or whatever
there's more fish in the see. Don't obsess over on chick like the 3 dudes in the picture
Don't do it, I am sure by this time a lot of people already saw that movie. It will just make you look unoriginalTheMale said:what do you think ? someone here tested it ?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lol, you pretty much just described a scene from the movie "Hitch"TheMale said:basically if you're in a bar and there's only one chick or only one hot chick ... ist definitely not the place where you wanna be !
maybe i'll try the same thing taken from hitch (the movie)
just go straight to her and order some drinks for my friend and i ... and without her answer i'll go back to my friend
me: 'hey 2 beer and 1 vodka redbull'
she: follow me so she is isolate 'i'm not the bartender'
and then i'll handle the situation
if she's not coming so can alway go back to her and ask her what about the drinks
i don't know if it's working but i like to try new things
what do you think ? someone here tested it ?
^ thats what he just said. lol.Sabol said:lol, you pretty much just described a scene from the movie "Hitch"
Hahaha! Gee, pedestaling much?dudewut said:Good answers! However, as I said, this is that ONE chick that you cannot just let go or replace YOU GOTTA HAVE HER OR YOUR PEN!S WILL HATE YOU AND BE FLACCID FOREVER
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.