Waited 10 days for first Text

[bigneil]

In the old days the "How soon should I call?" topic was common, but with texting it's nearly always just instant. We often text them just to confirm numbers. I almost never wait more than 24 hours.

Well, 10 days ago I got a phone number of a girl who had the same name as my (then) girlfriend, so I avoided texting her. But today I wrote to her and said "Hi Carolina 2, we met 10 days ago and I said I wanted to photograph you". (She knew another model had her name).

She wrote back immediately and we already have a date scheduled.

It might be a coincidence, but (provided you know you were memorable) it also might be good to wait to text them. (It's also good to wait to ask for their number).

Have you ever waited to text and how did it work out?

 

[dustmuffin]

I text within a day or so to set up a date. After that it's NC till the date. Has worked for me

 

[RangerMIke]

I contact women when I want to... I don't typically use a set formula for when this happens. Sometimes I call right away, sometimes I don't. Usually when I make dates it's for stuff I have already planned for myself and the chick is coming along based on if I think she will be fun or not, or if she might get something out of it. If I meet a women that tells me she likes Elvis Costello, and I find out he's going to be in town the next day, I'll call her the next day. if it's in two weeks, I'll call in two weeks. I will say that typically with chicks lately is if you don't call them right away they think you are playing games with them... and will mirror this back, and will not respond right away. You can't worry about this stuff.

Do what you want to do and don't worry about what any chick thinks about it, there is nothing you can do about what she thinks. I have had women get mad at me for calling a week or so after they give me their number, thinking I'm playing some mind games with them... When this happens she just screened herself out as not a whole lot of fun... you don't want to date someone that thinks dating is a war.

Men don't play mind games, and rules for contact really are only for guys that are new to a DJ lifestyle and have for old/weak habits they need to break. But as long as you don't get too fixated on any one chick until she is head over heals in love with you, then contact women when you want and don't worry about seaming desperate. Because if you have an attitude that you have lots of options with women, you will appear to be a guy that is in demand.

 

[Skyline]

Depends on interest levels but I don't think the first text matters as much as people say it does on here.

 

[El Payaso]

If she finds you attractive and wants to go out with you, it won't really matter how long you wait to text her.

The last girl I dated, I texted her a few hours after we met and we went out on a date the very next day.