"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wait...so do females ignore us the way we do them?

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The mystrey of the female species will ever daunt us poor men (aka suckers) and I was just posing a question, do Woman ignore us the way we do them?, do they not answer texts , e-mails, phone calls etc...because they want to be chased?...or are they just not interested and don't have the balls to tell a guy that they aren't?.

I have trouble understanding to be honest, but I don't dwell or tell them because what's the point?.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jaun_Don

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anybody please?...I am just trying to understand some situations, cos I don't think I have done anything wrong, all I want to do is spend time with these girls, hang out and ****, why is that bad?...and the 2 that are not getting back to me I have known for more than a few years, and what's odd is that they are cool to me when I see them?, In fact I saw one of them today and I think she was 'stepping around' it but I didn't mention it and just chatted to her about stuff...so what gives?
 

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They too weak

As far as i understand, chicks at first play hard-to-get then gradually, as the relationship goes the chick now turns out to be the one playing desperate, mind yu this is not always the case. To make sure the chick ends up this way yu haves to plays yo cards rite. i.e no ten-calls a day, no unnessesary comps, e.t.c coz women don't have the guts to sit back and watch the situation,guys do. an example: if yu have an argument with yo chick over something and yu up and leave, three or five days pass without seeing each other, who's the first one to call? right the chick! coz she's too eager to know wats up. so girls can never ignore us even if they wanted to. we're the PRIZE remember?:)
 

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In response to your first post, I think its cos girls seem to have had a better understanding of 'the game' from day one. They have spent years reading their girly magazines with articles such as 'how to tease him', '10 ways to leave your man begging for more', 'how to get d1ck on tap 24/7' (ok maybe that last one was made up)

But basically they have known about the game for a loooong time, which is generally why women (in most cases) seem to have the upper hand in the dating arena. They know all about being a challenge, teasing, playing 'hot/cold' etc... because they've been reading 'dating tactics' like this for years... while boys on the other hand were too busy playing with toy soldiers/cars to care.

We (guys) are complete rookies by comparison!! Hell, I didn't even realise there was a big 'game' until I came to this site!!

So I'm guessing the reason women ignore you and act nonchalant is because they know all about not appearing desparate, being mysterious, keeping IL etc.. they know how the game works... well either that or they hate you and want you to go away.

But I hope for your sake its the first one.
 

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well either that or they hate you and want you to go away.

But I hope for your sake its the first one.

^funny guy...:D :crackup: :mad:
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Yes, they do in my experience... Some around here will say they don't, but I sure as hell have noticed a lot of 'tricks' around here being played to the last detail by girls, it is quite annoying...
 

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Of course, A LOT of hot chicks know how to play the game! You should always keep that in mind! This also means that most of the girls know very well when and if you are playing with them as well! Therefore I think that the true pimps and Don Juans are not just acting and playing 'hard-to-get', but try to be as unpredictable as possible... for example: be the sweetest guy for two days... be romantic, loveable, etc.... but play it cold on the third day... that will really drive them crazy!
 

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^^^ guys that play up and down = unreliable to the female, society says it's okay for women to be moody but if men were they're seen as psychos.
 

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Originally posted by themanwithnoname
^^^ guys that play up and down = unreliable to the female, society says it's okay for women to be moody but if men were they're seen as psychos.
No... I don't think he means act moody like a ***** because that won't work.

He means play with the amount of attention you give her and be a mystery....

In other words, give her attention then pull it away for a longer amount of time and then bring it back. Crack a few jokes one minute, then be dead serious later.

Do not be like a girl and act like a **** on your down swing. Your down swing should be you being serious/calm...just chilling and not going out of your way to give her attention.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If anyone here says that chicks DON'T play the hot/cold game they need to be smacked.

Honestly, the Hot/Cold method is proly the first game played by the Attention *****.
 

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Any chicks that plays games with you, means that she is not highly interested in you! two people cannot play games against each other and expect to win.

Girls do not play hard to get when she is:

a) really into the guy

b) knows that he can get plenty of ass and therefore she will not want to upset him with her games because he just won't put up with her. The AFC will put up with her games and therefore she will take him for a ride for what he is worth.

Don't let girls play games.

As for the original poster, women generally make lousy friends. Don't go the friend route if you want to get ass. Be the man you always wanted to be and you will attract the chicks this way instead of chasing them around.

Read the DJ Bible, you need it.
 

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interested girls still play hard to get at the early stages. lets say when you first meet .. or when you see eachother everyday at school or work. which i find stupid. if a girl dont aknowledge(spelling) me.. then she aint worth it. i workes to hard on my self improvment fo it to end up on games. thats just my own view and stance.. and shouldnt be the same for everyguy.
 

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Originally posted by DJDamage
Any chicks that plays games with you, means that she is not highly interested in you! two people cannot play games against each other and expect to win.

Girls do not play hard to get when she is:

a) really into the guy

b) knows that he can get plenty of ass and therefore she will not want to upset him with her games because he just won't put up with her. The AFC will put up with her games and therefore she will take him for a ride for what he is worth.

Don't let girls play games.

As for the original poster, women generally make lousy friends. Don't go the friend route if you want to get ass. Be the man you always wanted to be and you will attract the chicks this way instead of chasing them around.

Read the DJ Bible, you need it.
No I don't so but thanks for your concern...

I just need to find the right girls I think, I do okay and have had a lot of relationships in the past (longest being 3 years) and I hook up every couple of months, but a lot of chicks are just weird and not straight and the 2 I asked out recently are not being direct so I was just asking why..I guess asking girls out over texts is not the way to go though.

I am hardly AFC and will tell a girl if she is bieng a ***** or what I think but yeah again I am chasing the worng ones that is all.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The average girl has more game than any GURU pua/DJ
 

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I just got a text from one of them and she called me mysterious....what could this mean I wonder? ;)
 

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Do women play games because we let them?

Does a guy get games from a woman because he's not coming on strong enough or is leaving her too much room to maneuver?
 
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Originally posted by Visceral
Do women play games because we let them?

Does a guy get games from a woman because he's not coming on strong enough or is leaving her too much room to maneuver?
:woo: good points
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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