"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wait for her or not

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yo guys
as of today schools / colleges (year 11 & 12) have a 2 week break. There is a girl on my bus (I went to playgroup with her when i was ~4 years old !) and she's got a friend that i've been kinda interested in but only recently. we've made eye contact a few times anywho, after i got off the bus yesterday I asked her friend who goes on my bus, about this girl. I described her and she goes "oh yea thats .....". So i go oh ok cool, then her friend offered me her number but I said nah... u have my number? and she said yea and she msgd her friend and told her about me last night, so last night I got a message from her friend, we just txt'd about what subjects, where she lives, hobbies etc.
She doesnt know who I am but her friend would have described her to me lol so it felt kinda awkward, so my question is, do I wait for her to txt me tonight/in a few days, or do I txt her? (It might make me seem desperate). Also, after i find out abit more about her, should I ask her if she wants to catch up in town and get lunch and just chill?

thanks guys~
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So by that, you think I should ask her if she wants to get lunch sometime next week and just chill out :?
 

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Well she just msg'd me then!

I'll msg her and ask her if she wants to do something next week I reckon! Have lunch and do something else :)

Ima happy :D :D :D :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: !!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think that the more you msg her the harder it will be to date her. Just call her and ask her out ie don't ask her out with sms. my 2cents.
 

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hmm interesting...

Last night we were txting about what we are going to do tomorrow (today) and then i said something followed by "do you have any plans for the 2nd week of the holidays, name!?"

And she never sent a txt back :<

What do you guys think, am I being too worried about it all, should I just wait for her to txt me or should i txt her tonight or even call her? D:!~
 
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Kid, you're making all the classic mistakes. (1) Showing lack of balls by being reluctant to talk & hiding behind text messaging, (2) acting over-eager by texting too much, (3) showing weakness by worrying about the outcome.

You're only 16. This is a learning experience for you. Calm down, don't be so anxious, and for God's sake read the DJ bible.
 

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haha she just told me she fell asleep last night thats why she didnt txt haha ZOMG!~
 

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txting is evil. DON'T DO IT~!

I'm sure other guys will agree.. way too many varibles.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yea i agree - i only txt back if she txts me.

atm im setting up a date with her to get lunch then just hang out, will get her home number soon and give her a call.
 

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Wow.
You must be the biigest excuser.
You wait for approval from the girl rather than taking what u want.
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
Why dont you just call her?
Word...

Call, talk for 10 seoncds, get date.

Go on date.
 
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