LondonTowers
Don Juan
Have any of you guys dealt with this type of Borderline? There are plenty stories of classic outward BPD girls and I can tell them from a mile off, but these Waif / Quiet Borderlines seem to be harder to spot but looking back I have definitely dealt with these before.
There's a chick at work who I've been getting to know, she is quiet and reserved, but seemed to be nice and sweet too. She is cute in an understated way, ironically looks like Wynona Ryder in Girl Interrupted!
Anyway, she started opening up to me pretty rapidly recently as I built rapport, she is saying stuff like how she has suffered depression, self harmed, has body dysmorphia, was molested, doesn't have any friends, doesn't get on with girls, hardly eats, has had suicidal thoughts. I know, I know.. writing this down it sounds crazy, but she just seemed to open up to me as I've paid attention.
But now, I think she may be putting the ground work to hook me. Divulging these things is like she is the victim and is trying to pull out some kind of white knight impulse in me. A younger me would probably have thought we were getting close, but the older me now is thinking WTF is this girl up to!
So basically, I know a classic BPD girl will shower you with attention/love/sex at the beginning to get you hooked.. but does a Waif / Quiet Borderline do the opposite, instead playing the weak victim that needs saving and try to pull at your inner white knight to fix her and get emotional involved.. then later start playing all the classic push/pull, emotional manipulation but via a more subtle way that doesn't involve raging.
Experiences / Stories welcome to get a better picture of this very insidious creature!
Interesting read: http://gettinbetter.com/waif.html
There's a chick at work who I've been getting to know, she is quiet and reserved, but seemed to be nice and sweet too. She is cute in an understated way, ironically looks like Wynona Ryder in Girl Interrupted!
Anyway, she started opening up to me pretty rapidly recently as I built rapport, she is saying stuff like how she has suffered depression, self harmed, has body dysmorphia, was molested, doesn't have any friends, doesn't get on with girls, hardly eats, has had suicidal thoughts. I know, I know.. writing this down it sounds crazy, but she just seemed to open up to me as I've paid attention.
But now, I think she may be putting the ground work to hook me. Divulging these things is like she is the victim and is trying to pull out some kind of white knight impulse in me. A younger me would probably have thought we were getting close, but the older me now is thinking WTF is this girl up to!
So basically, I know a classic BPD girl will shower you with attention/love/sex at the beginning to get you hooked.. but does a Waif / Quiet Borderline do the opposite, instead playing the weak victim that needs saving and try to pull at your inner white knight to fix her and get emotional involved.. then later start playing all the classic push/pull, emotional manipulation but via a more subtle way that doesn't involve raging.
Experiences / Stories welcome to get a better picture of this very insidious creature!
Interesting read: http://gettinbetter.com/waif.html