"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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w00t finally did it! :cheer: + field report

Exo

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I been reading the bible for some time now but last week I finally did something about my year long "slump", sort of. hink either she's DJ'n me or I just ****ed up but either way.. FINALLY DID IT!

The cafteria is prety small and on a sort of mini court yard, so there's her, this chick and a friend of mine when I go there. she offers me coke, said no insisted[little story] and I accepted. I went to their to check my mail and did so. We had some small talk before I left got her number and split(she wanted me to stay with her to class|). All in all prety cool (for me) so far.

Three days later, around 8:30pm I call her up and the convo goes something like this:

Me: Hey it's me [name]
Her: Hi [name] what a surprise]
Me: So hows it going
Her: prety good
Me: What ya doing on saterday?
Her: oww nothing
Me: Hey how'd you like to get something to eat?
Her: ok!

Cant remember the rest exactly but basically was going good (she sounded prety excited)till she asked when and I ran out of bling, reall bad. I got sort of nervous I supose since I had'nt made definate plans so was like "[one place] or [the other] well find something". Even that was acceptable I think (bad memory) then I really blew it when she asked "when". and said about 3pm. Obviosly this was stupid since thats just after classes ans way too early. Said she'd check her schedule and call me back after 12(we get virtually free talk time then).

She sounded prety excited(in a good way) and did go prety well till then so should I just next this girl or what? Thanks for listening all and anyone out there in my position: go ahead call up anyone! It'll fell great.

Looser that I am I still feel like a brand new man!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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j8snx1

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Hahah hey Exo, good job! What a way to get out of that slump man. Glad to know that you're back on board.

Don't forget to keep up the eye contact, kino, ****y/funny, and/or any effective methods during the meal!

I personally like to do these, but it's completely up to you:

1) I order for the lady =)
2) If the waitress is hot, I'd try to joke around with her (but not to the point where my date thinks I'm a total womanizer)
3) Poke fun @ my date, or do something wacky, like telling her there's a spider on the ceiling, and when she looks I steal her food.

Blah blah blah. You're the man, so DO lead, and have a fun time. Good luck!
 

Exo

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update

Thanks for the reply man!

She did'nt call me up though. Saw her next day(yesterday) at school and she smiles/girlie waves at me and goes like sorry for not calling up, said it's cool and she waited for more I guess than just sorry again and "bye"(semi embaresed I think at this stage). She sends her friend to have a look at what I'm doing (was chillin at the cafteria with some buds) and pops bye twice. Before I leave I had a look at the clases and she probably thought it's to check on her(was'nt). About 30 mins afterwards I get "mised call" from her and that night she sends me a message:

"Supp [name] you sleepin now init?"

I didnt reply and we got the day of. Think I should ask her out again?
 

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Def. Man!

Never let being being "too cool" fvck you out of some a$$. Bottom line, thats what your after. Don't let the image of being a Dj kill the actual reality of being a Dj.

Engage her, get things crackin again. Alls good, your both just young and doin your thing, sort of feelin your way through it, so the timing is sort of off. Thats what your feelin.

If you want to feel something cool from her, something definite, then you be something cool and definite with her. Get it!?

Do this for me real quick (and whenever you need a master DJ perspective on sh!t)...

Close your eyes and see the scenario from the eyes of yourself 10 yrs. from now, when your a well established man, and natural SoSuave Dj. It will totally put things in perspective, and you'll be able to see just what to do, and how to go about it.

Ya'll are just doin the H.S. thing, see it as such, and suprise the whole storyline here, with being/doing the SoSuave 25yr. Man thing. Trust me... it will blow the socks off her (hopefully the panties too).


SuaveOn'
-DarkLight-
 

Exo

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Thanks man, I think I'll ask her out again and if she does ask me why I didnt reply I got the truth to back me up(no credit on my phone).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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