"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hello, since starting this journey of self actualization i've realized that my life is almost completely incongruent with my core values and aims and i am changing this now. i work in politics and am leaving my job because it is poisoned environment and i am in debt and will allow myself to become bankrupt.

Big changes, but back to the point I want to volunteer abroad, interested in Africa most of all so if any of you guys have done this or can point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it. i've searched goggle but all the links that come up seem to be stuff you have to pay for - i really cant afford to do that but I am sure that I've heard of groups that send you and pay for your meals and basic accomodation

thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KontrollerX

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You might want to look into Christian groups.

Not that you have to become one but I think a lot of Christians go to Africa on proselytizing missions and help build houses and donate food while they're doing it so if you do some research on that end you'll probably eventually find some kind of Christian aid mission to the country.
 

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ever heard of the peace corps? if you are in america that is
 

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I second peace corps if you are american. They will suspend your student debts while you serve, pay you some $$ when you leave, plus it looks great on a resume should you decide to return to corporate life one day.

Another option might be the French Foriegn Legion. I've never heard of anyone joining, but it is rumored to be an easy way to see the world and possibly obtain French citizenship if that appeals to you.

Teaching English is the old stand by for people who want to travel without dipping into savings too much. From what I know, you just need a BA/BS to do this kind of work in many places. I think some of the shadiest places even higher high school grads. This might be just enough to keep credit card debt paid and still afford to do some things, if that's your issue.

In some places you can work while attending school. Canada is this way, there are also organizations (BUNAC is one I think) that help people under a certain age work abroad. Other places one can work as self-employed, Germany has some good options for this, I've talked to a lady who has pulled this off for some time now.

I don't recommend to simply default on loans for the sake of volunteering, though. I think you should work with your lenders, your government, and organizations to find a solution. If all else fails, you may have to go it solo andfind a gig that pays enough to keep your loans up and yourself fed. It;'s never as hard as it sounds. IMO, the best thing to do is start making phone calls and visiting offices of people who can help you. Looking online is confusing when there are so many people trying to get your $$$$.
 
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