"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Volfe's Approach Journal

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Ok, so I'm going to start an approach journal. I am not going to assign myself a certain number to approach because I am confident enough where I have no trouble approaching and talking to girls. I am more looking for advice as to what I could do better.

Approach #1: I was working out today and this HB8.5 was on the exercise bike. I started looking at her, and then I noticed that she would look at me. Whenever we had EC, she would smile really big before I could even smile. So I walked up and here's what went down. She had been wearing headphones, but when she saw me coming over she took them off quickly and smiled really big.

ME: Hi, I saw you and thought that I just had to come up and introduce myself. I'm volfe. *shakes hands*
HB: Hi, I'm HB.
ME: So, what state of Australia are you from (she had an Australian accent)?
HB: I'm from Western Australia
ME: *starts talking to her about the differences between US and Australia, with some C+F thrown in. She's asking questions too, so it's not one-sided*
ME: (my friends were waiting and there was no way to write down a number, plus it's at high school so theres opportunities to see her again) Well, I have to go, but I'll make sure to talk to you later. *I smile really big and look her straight in the eye and sort of put my hand on her hand as I say this*
HB: Okay, sounds great! *smiles really big*

I felt like it went pretty well, but what do you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I haven't updated in a while, so here goes.

Ok, I've done a couple. They aren't really approaches per se, because I already knew all of the girls.

#1: This was more of just a test of how much I have in the way of balls.
There's this HB8 at my work and I walked up behind her and slapped her butt lightly. I made sure to stand my ground and act like nothing out of the ordinary happened.
HB8: Did you just slap my butt?
Me: Yeah
HB8: Why?
Me: I just couldn't hold back my animal instincts. You know you liked it!
HB8: Suuuure.....
*A little bit of flirting*
Me: Well, I have to go *holds out arms*
HB8: You want a hug? Just ask...
Me: I'm not gonna ask!
HB8: Hugs me *I leave*

#2: Talked with HB from before again (I'm bumping her up to a 9). We had a great conversation and she asked me to walk with her. I asked her if she had a phone and she pulled it out and before I could ask her for her digits, she asked for my contact info. She emailed later saying that she lost the numbers and that shed just give me hers, which she did. So, things are going well on that front.

I know you aren't supposed to call right after, but there might be a snow day tomorrow. Would it be bad to call her to go sledding or something tomorrow? B/c I don't really have anything fun to do on snow days anyways...
 

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I called up HB9 on Valentine's Day. I asked her if she was free and she said "yeah!" and so I went and picked her up. We hung out a few different places and it was going really well. It's really slippery here so, you know, I had to hold her hand and put my arm around her to "keep her from falling" :D.

When I dropped her off I walked her up to her door and said "I had a great time" and she said "yeah! we should definitely do this again sometime". After that, I totally pussed out and high-fived her before walking back to the car....I feel really stupid, but in my defense it didn't seem like quite the right vibe for a k-close, you know?

So, the date went awesome, but I messed up the end-game. Oh well, live and learn.

Before I went on the date, I stopped by work to check my schedule. This girl that I flirt with a bit (HB7.5) was working. I asked her why she was working on Valentine's Day, didn't she have someone to spend it with. She was like, "no! I wish I did" and then sort of looked at me expectantly. I sort of played into it but said I was off to do something. She kept asking who with, but I didn't tell her to keep her in suspense. If things don't work out with HB9 I think she's a good possibility.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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