"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aresx

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Dammit, i've been trying to help myself out for a while on these two things... i have seen myself on video, and i do NOT come across like i intend to - what i think is "seductively masculine" at the time, looks pretty much "feminine"

anyone know of any good tips/programs i can buy that really delve into how to improve these?

i even went so far as to order a TEXTBOOK on nonverbal communication for bodylanguage from amazon. a friggin TEXTBOOK, not a little pop-psychology book, a university level TEXTBOOK (not sure what level, 1, 2, 3 or 4).

awaiting it's shipment, will let you all know how i do with that, in the meantime...

HELP!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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problem is when i try to replicate... comes out differently. i wanna find the parts from breaking it down to the essentials, and then understand that... i've tried to walk like the really masculine role models on tv.. doesn't come across right...

however, in high school, ugly as fukk, walking like a badass the first year i made the drumline, some cute chich opened me before a pep rally, of course, i was too much of an AFC to continue the conversation... dammit... if only i could re-create that feeling of badassness that made me walk however....
 

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I don't know much on body language really but heres some tips.

- take up body space
- sit and stand straight and don't lean or support your weight on either side too much
- Try too keep your chest out
- keep your head up
- slow confident / purposeful movements
- don't figit around / cross your arms or
- keep good eye contact


..theres a few simple things not sure on the more complex things like hand movements or facial gestures etc.... basically look purposful, confident and manly lol
 
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