"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Voice Projection!

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For as long as I have known, I've had problems projecting my voice. I would say something and a lot of the time, be seemingly ignored. This was because I had weak voice projection. Recently I was at a concert and near a speaker talking with my friends. When I opened my mouth to speak, I knew what I was saying but nothing would come out. My voice just seems to fade into the sound. I was standing barely 2-3 feet away from my friend and i couldn't project at all. (I was near a speaker btw) I realize that if i can't project from that distance how am i going to project my voice in a club when talking to a girl? So i was wondering if anyone could give me some tips/exercises on voice projection and how to project your voice over a loud environment. Thanks.

I am actually reading Senor Finger's post about projection

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37707&highlight=projection for anyone who is interested

but other tips would be helpful, i did try his method but it didn't seem to work for me, however i'm gonna give it another go
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Couple years ago, I bought a karaoke systems. I still having fun with till today. All my friends love it especially the girls. They always turn it on and sing their heart out when they come over.

It's a little expensive though.
 

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Crank up the volume in your car, then practice speaking over it. Your throat will get sore/dry at first, but with time it'll improve and become easier to do this.
 

quest

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Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
delete
u realise ur questioning what diablo has already done right?

he made a decision to move the thread to AE, one reply later ur suggesting it should be deleted. if diablo wanted to delete it, he would have.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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maybe you need more resonance-- not volume.

Learn to breath properly: in through the nose and into the belly. Now say HI.
 

quest

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Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Hehe sorry quest I should have made it more clear.

I meant delete my post.

I gave the link to "Empower Your Voice" but I realized that the original poster already posted it. :p
oh lol..
sweet.. my bad.
 

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Can someone please explain what resonance/resonate mean in laymens terms. I have a hard time trying understand it from dictionary.com
 

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Basically, it means give a bigger sound. In musical instruments, usualy the bigger the body of an instrument, the deeper the tone. This tone is usually percieved as being louder or at least more clear. The Violin produces a much higher tone than the bass mainly from the size of the instrument. The bigger the instrument, the larger the sonic wavelength can be. Their are other factors involved as well.

To speak with resonance, you need to talk from the largest part of your voice, The chest. You will speak slower and deeper, but it will have an extra quality if you do it right.
 

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ditto the previous poster....

Just listen to yourself talk, pay attention to the vibration that comes from your throat and upper chest. Try to intensify that vibration, the more vibration the more resonance.

The same is for instruments, in legit sax playing I use to use a copper neck because it vibrated for and created a more complex sound.

Be careful not to strain your voice while working on resonance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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