"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Virtual Speed Dating DOWNSIDES

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Net dating has become super-saturated with over 1500 dating sites in 2010. In an attempt to deviate from the cookie-cutter Dating sites, a few people have opted to create the thrill you get from live speed dating events by re-inventing it online. This defeats the whole concept of speed dating. Speed dating is a viable option to Net Dating. People long for the warm heartfelt atmosphere you experience from live, face to face personal interactions, not the cold hand of technology.

It’s a chance to get out of the house and into the social mood at a popular tavern or bar. You cannot compare the two, it’s like the difference between driving a convertible with the top down in the summertime on a busy highway and a virtual drive with a simulated scenario. This is partly due to the tactile factor in which tangible items are within your grasp in the real world.

Others factors influencing virtual speed dating success include;

AVAILABILITY- not everyone has a web-cam, high speed connection, new computer, interesting stats, cool profile, etc.

DESIRE-People tend to be more relaxed in their place of residence. Getting dressed up, applying makeup, etc is not a high priority. Sitting in front of a monitor while on cam does not appeal to some people. Computer is static or less personable, where meeting other singles at a bar is more fluid.

TECHNO GLITHES- (current difficulties) my experience has shown time lags with various web-cams contributing to jerky/ slow motion images.

DISTRACTIONS-while in your home your attention may be deterred from the virtual event (door bell, IM’s, Text messages, email alerts, pets, other people, tv, radio, neighbors, etc). When you attend a live SD event, you are there for a purpose.

HELP-if difficulties or questions arise online, immediate solutions are not readily available. At a live event, you simply ask the coordinator.

POWER OUTAGE-in real life power failures often bring people closer together, if the power goes down while you are online it often results in anger/frustration issues.

BODY LANGUAGE-can be difficult to extract online, communicating sub-text in person is much easier than online, as is detecting deception leakage. People don’t always look the same in person as they do on a web-cam.

OTHER-some people type slow, ISP providers vary as does the speeds, web-cams. Spelling counts, some people use acronyms (short-form text/IM chat) & not everyone can interpret. Humor not as profound online as in person, etc

IGNORE-with virtual speed dating a person has the option to ignore a speed dater. In person you have to participate in all speed dates (encouraged to meet everyone).

SUPERFICIAL-people tend to be more superficial online than in person.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Virtual speed dating DOWNSIDES
You mean there are downsides to speed dating online? Apart from the fact it sucks ass and is a pathetic way to meet women? Not that I've tried it and I may be wrong but the real life speed dating from what I've seen seems to be mainly composed of societies "losers in love". I cant even imagine the winners one would find through this online sh!t.

Apart from a thankyou captain obvious, what is the point of your post?
 

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Why does people have to come up with hundreds of different ways to meet people. Just go to the ****ing club or mall and you can get so many chicks your dick couldn't even handle it.
 

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UMMM online speed dating (hence the word VIRTUAL) is trying to gain momentum.......SPEED DATING has reached a saturation point, so they are tapping into online popularity......and this just defeats the purpose of attending a live event.

ON A SIDE NOTE: giving opinions where YOU SAY " I HAVE NEVER ATTENDED A SPEED DATING EVENT" speaks volumes towards your credibility. I wrote the post FROM GET THIS..........ACTUAL EXPERIENCE. NOW YOU MAY NOT LIKE speed dating and thats your choice........but its nice to have an article on here if someone is in fact contemplating Virtual speed dating.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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COD I must say I've got NO idea why you have been given + rep, since most if not all post that I have seen from you have just been a bunch of cr*p.

Online Speed dating wtf dude? Now dumb AFCs will try this for 2-3 months and complain here that it doesn't work. Boo-f*cking-hoo.
This site should be informative, not filled with useless cr*p like "internet speed super cocaine dating". Teach these something useful instead.
 

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Speed Online Dating? Really? That sounds f-cking retarded. But then again I don't put much stock in online dating.
 

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hi speed internet is everywhere and video (cams) are getting more attention. Seems everyone is using/making video now a days.

The concept is simple: U get 5 minutes of live feed to chat, 1 minute to decide (yes or no). Skype is offering virtual speed dating.

I suppose you could just ask anyone online if they have a cam and talk to them (like people have been doing FOR FREE for years).

Again at this time............I am not convinced Virtual speed dating is ideal. I am sure if long distances are a factor, this woul be the cheaper way to go.
 
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