Virgins, Enough Is Enough!

[keyforit]

Alright first off I want to say I'm happy I'm back. I use to post alot when I was younger but now since i'm in the military it's hard to find time to spend online.

Ok now down to business. here's the story...
I've been with this girl about 9 months on and off, 4 months now without a problem. Now she's about to be 19 now and i'm almost 20 and yet she does not sleep with me. She is a virgin and everything she has done sexually has been with me. I live in San Diego and she lives up in San Fran... we see each other every 2-3 weeks when we can find the time to fly out to see one another. I've never had a problem with seducing women before, I actually though i was quite good at it. But this particular woman is and i'd never thought i'd day this way out of my league. She's very timid it seems and very frightened. I've been through alot with her and we've discussed having sex several times but she keeps telling me she's scared and wants more time. I know the best thing to do is wait but i need to know if there are any secrets in sleeping with virgins? I just want to have a strong sexual relationship with her, but this is just driving me away from her. What can i do ease her mind on the worries she has about sex?

Also any tips on how to seduce a woman when it's her first time? Like best place, what to say, music? Where is the best place to do it and what can i do to make her more comfortable so she can go that extra step in our relationship that i feel we desperately need to take right now.

I thank anyone who can spend just 5 mins and share their experiences and success with me.

 

[lebRambo]

jeez, thats a tough one dude. One thing I have learned is to NEVER assume that all women are basically the same. My ex didn't prize her virginity all that much (not as in she was a ho, but as in she didn't have this romantic idea that virginity is something to be closely guarded at all times. she was more realistic) so I had a pretty good time with her. Seeing as how she lives so far away and you have to fly to see her, you have to ask ourself if the expense and effort are really worth it. If she makes up for it in other ways, then maybe she's worth keeping. Its entirely your decision, nothing I say or do can make this easier for you to decide.

good luck.

 

[Muppet]

I always tend to think of the girls that are scared to have sex are just not being honest with themselfs. Why cut yourself out of something that feels so good? It's natural to want to have sex. Honestly if someone told me they wanted to wait till marriage or something I would kick em. That makes me think they would only want to have sex at "special times" Not like 2-5 times a day. There is nothing to be ashamed about wanting to have sex that much, it's natural.


Also maybe she is scared and thinks she will suck? Thought it's kinda hard for the girl to suck.

 

[PeterCrouch]

All the gals ive been with have sucked!

 

[the_great_gaia]

I know how you feel bro, so let me share my experience with you on this subject:

My current girlfriend, it took me 1 year and a half to fvck her. I used to ALWAYS discuss sex with her hoping that her curiosity with it would make her wanna have sex. That didn't work.

But how i got her to do it was like this:

Take your time in trying to make her feel comfortable around you without trying to make it so "obvious". Make her feel good about herself (because a relationship is solely based on how SHE FEELS; not you. If you make her feel so good about herself, she'll actually make you feel good for making her feel so good about herself. I know, weird, right?) You have to take it out of your mind that you want to have sex with her, because females have this thing when they can actually sense that we want to fvck them. So put it out of your mind and try to make her comfortable with you. That's what I did, and when she said "Ok. I'm ready to fvck.." I couldn't believe it at all!

We have sex a lot now and i STILL CAN'T BELIEVE I finally had sex with her after waiting so long to do it.

 

[Jay-X]

Originally posted by keyforit
I know the best thing to do is wait but i need to know if there are any secrets in sleeping with virgins?

the best thing to do is wait?! man, you're 20... how much do you wanna wait? i would understand if she were like 15, but she's just an year younger than you.

here's the situation:

1. you can do pretty well with girls (you say it)
2. she doesn't want to have sex with you
3. she lives miles away from you
4. you see each other every 3 weeks


why are you still with her? do you really think she's your significant other? what about those 4 "little problems"?

 

[spider_007]

It just meens that she isn't as attracted to you as you might think. Woman like it when it's with someone special. She just might not think you are it.

 

[frivolousz21]

KA ME HA ME HAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!



vegeta got OWNED


my gf is a virgin as well

but it will be taken care of by the end of the summer


or so I hope



:woo:

 

[flyinshark]

The satisfaction of fvcking a virgin after working on her for a long time is much greater than fvcking a girl after a few hours of knowing her.

I say the wait is worth it. Not with all the girls you meet, but once in a while it can be quite amazing. Like the_great_gaia said, make her feel comfortable with you and dont push her towards having sex with you.

What i did once was actually using reverse psychology on the girl, telling her that we shouldn't do anything sexual when we are together since i knew she was not ready. After a few times of her coming at my place and me not responding to her tries to get more intimate with me, she couldn't take it anymore and told me she was finally ready. Just like that... The sex was very good afterwards. The first time it's like a psychological barrier for the girl, but once breached it's gonna be easier and easier to sleep with her. Good luck, soldier!

 

[Luveno]

Hey man,

stay with her but game other chicks on the side. It would be foolish to put all your game on someone who won't and can't deliver as expected.

 

[DJ Hawtness]

She's going to have one of the BEST orgasms you've seen from a woman.

Stay with this chick, but meet other girls on the side...

 

[Ouzo]

Tell her that sex is natural. That to advance your intimacy with her is only natural.

Honestly. I could not take it. I would have broken up with her dude. As the guy above listed 4 reasons why ...I agree.

Its up to you really but she doesn't seem like the person I would keep around.

 

[keyforit]

Hey thanks a ton to all of you who replied and shared your thoughts with me. Yeah i have to admit when the sex comes because it will come it will defintely be alot better then any girl you find off the streets. Anyway i've been with her for so long it would be retarded to give up now especially when i'm so close. What's sad is i don't just want to **** her but you know it would be nice to know she cares about my sexual needs.

What i need to know now though is what do i do in bed with her to make her feel comfortable? I mean how do you prepare a virgin in bed right before you have sex? What do i say what should i plan out? I'm kind of boring when it comes to romance so if you guys could help a fellow DJ out, or should i say ex DJ since i'm whooped on this girl. Gracias.

 

[flyinshark]

Everything has to start hours (if not days) before you two are in bed. I say u have to prepare her emotionally. She needs to have feelings for you in order for her to open her legs to you.

So before u get her in the bed, i recommend u make some nice compliments to her and perhaps buy her a rose (if you guys love each other). The rose thing worked very well for me, that's why i am proposing this strategy. Your girl will feel very touched and will want to repay you somehow. Get her in bed afterwards and see for yourself. Hope this helps.