Virgin to DJ: Analytic Daily Approuch Journal

[Holland]

Just set out a goal to make out with a girl first then.

I don't know if you have a big social circle, but if you don't expand that too, so that you'll meet more women through that too. I find that to be a lot more comfortable since you have the social proof from your friends too.

Whenever I start it with a girl I like to think in these steps and focus on one, then the next, then the next etc.
It'll help you not to be that attached to the outcome of the situation.


1. Approach/socializing with her/rapport etc.
2. email/number
3. date request
4. date itself (sometimes you can skip 2 and 3 if you do an 'instant date', especially if you're in a club/bar setting, just say, hey let's go get a drink/dance/play pool/check out the band together)
5. touch her/hold hands etc.
6. kiss her
7. isolating her
8. make out
9. sex

 

[Holland]

Aight, back again guys.

Went out with the same girl again. Had and made a lot of fun of her. We went to some cafe and a club later. By the end of the night she was just waiting for me to make out with her, but I didn't due to my lack of physical advancing. Didn't matter anyway cause when she left she started kissing my neck while hugging me. We started making out after that

She asked me if I wanted to hook up again sometime (I asked her all previous times, so that's a good sign) today, so I guess I'll try to take it to the next level again. I'M HYPED


Didn't do any more approaches though....
Maybe I should.

 

[Analytic]

I decided to ressurect this journal, I made a lot of excuses since I stopped but I feel I have grown stronger since then. This time I will do whatever it takes to achieve my goals.

Here's the approuching I did today.

I got off to a pretty good start today, I called up my wing and we went downtown. We only had about an hour to sarge so we had to make it count. I missed a couple of sets which sucks but the girls were sitting down talking, it'll be weird to went direct on them, maybe excusing?

Approach #1

Went to the bookstore, I saw an Asian girl and from first glance I knew she was Japanese so right at that instance I knew this wasn't gonna be too nerve racking and she didn't seem all that attractive so I didn't feel much AA.

Me: Hey, I think you're cute... what's your name?
Her: "somethingidontremember" my name is Analytic, nice to meet you
Me: do you go to school here?
Her: Yes, *she said something but i dont remember*
*We spoke for a few min about her going to school here and that she has to go back to Japan*
Me: That's too bad beacuse I think you're cute and I would like to take you out
Her: Ohh...
*we parted ways*

Approach #2

Saw an asian girl walking past me and she was pretty hot so I touch her arm she turned around

Me: hey, you're pretty
Her: no...
Me: you don't think you're pretty?
Her: no...

At this point I found the conversation pretty funny so I burst out laughing and we went our ways

Approach #3

Saw an Asian girl sitting down eating by herself, I hesitated abit but finally grab my balls and approach

*Grab a chair and sit in front of her*
Me: Hi, I saw you sitting here, I think you're pretty and I like to get to know you
Her: Am waiting for my friends
Me: Oh but I didn't ask you that, did you meant to say you have a boyfriend? *LOL THE HELL?!*
Her: Ohh I thought you asked if am here alone
Me: No... I said that I noticed you and I think you're pretty
Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: I didn't ask you that either...

*things got too akward so I eject*



Approach #4

I was taking the bus home, I sat beside this lady. I was too nervous to talk to her since it was kinda dark out and didn't wanna creep her out but situation arise and I talk to her.

*she was watching some clips on her phone*
Me: are you watching TV?
Her: No am watching a beyonce concert

I don't remember the rest of the conversation but she asked me alot of questions and was definally interested but she was abit too old and wasnt attractive enought for me so I eject.


Thoughts:

I think I did ok for 1 hour of approaching, the wierd thing about today is that I had very little AA. I think its because I had my wing with me so it was easier to get into conversation mode. I will try to sarge alone tomorrow to keep the momentum going. I think I can get at least 15 approach tomorrow.

 

[greenlake]

Didn't I saw you on direct method forum? If that is you then.......i'm glad to see your journal. I dunno why you would only approach asian girls but asian girls here is really hard to find. btw, Iknow you're doing direct, but please don't give up on it. The reason some girls don't reciprocate positively were maybe you'e not congruent with what you're saying. AND this is my opinion, if you want direct to works extremely well then you need to focus on improving your looks. I hate to break it to you, but LOOKS does matter when it comes to direct.

good luck man. You deserve to get laid. if you approach girls like this everyday then you will get atleast 3 phone numbers per week.

 

[Analytic]

Didn't I saw you on direct method forum? If that is you then.......i'm glad to see your journal. I dunno why you would only approach asian girls but asian girls here is really hard to find. btw, Iknow you're doing direct, but please don't give up on it. The reason some girls don't reciprocate positively were maybe you'e not congruent with what you're saying. AND this is my opinion, if you want direct to works extremely well then you need to focus on improving your looks. I hate to break it to you, but LOOKS does matter when it comes to direct.

good luck man. You deserve to get laid. if you approach girls like this everyday then you will get atleast 3 phone numbers per week.

Hey yea it's me, I posted the Journal there as well... I want to get as much feedback as I can. You are too am assuming.

Over here in downtown Toronto asian girls are plenty! that's great for me because I find asian girls attractive, it's not that am afraid of white girls... it just taste that's all.

As far as looks, I agree that they do matter no matter what you do. I workout and dress well and constantly improving but there are some things that I can't change and I learn to live with it. Not sure why you bring that up tho? have you seen my pic somewhere?

 

[greenlake]

yea, it's nice to get feedbacks from people. But most of all, I feel more connection with you cause we're asian and we're doing direct. ....plus i'm bored and i'm stuck in the house right now.

The reason why I brought "looks' up was because the approaches you made was too short for some reasons. It could also be your body language or your voice tone. Or it's just the girls. I dunno cause I'm not there but anyway, i'm looking forward to read more from you.

 

[Analytic]

yea, it's nice to get feedbacks from people. But most of all, I feel more connection with you cause we're asian and we're doing direct. ....plus i'm bored and i'm stuck in the house right now.

The reason why I brought "looks' up was because the approaches you made was too short for some reasons. It could also be your body language or your voice tone. Or it's just the girls. I dunno cause I'm not there but anyway, i'm looking forward to read more from you.

Ohh gotcha, the conversation actually were alot longer but I just don't remember or really want to remember what we talked about. I don't think what I said was important but how I said it and what was my mind state at the moment.

 

[greenlake]

What you say is really important man. If not, then how can I read your FR. j/k, but i also think it's important too. You don't want to forget what the girl's hometown, favorite foods etc. the next time you go on a date with her.

 

[ope]

can`t u guys find girls that look so bad that no one will ever approach????
whit those u will build u`re confidence in you.

mainly i had the same problem and got to sluts whit a friend i did my job and after that some of things become more easy to be done and you get increased confidence.

 

[xdreamz]

man that's great....writing down your experiences and putting it on this site. i saw some of my world in yours there. asking for directions is a classic! personally, i saw that when you're anxious you did a lot better than when you felt crappy. when communicating with people, you communicate feeling as well....

why don't you say you have a girlfriend already? reverse the game on them a little bit.

why don't you have them take you to your classes and wait for you after?

why don't you have them drive you home since you didn't take your car?

just some ideas.....good luck.