Virgin to DJ: Analytic Daily Approuch Journal

[Analytic]

It is 4:00 Am and I could not sleep, am tossing and turning thinking about my life. Noway am gonna live my life like this any longer. I spend the last couple of days reading pugs and Jwhites journal. Hats off to these guys because without them I would have never started this Journal. This step to change my life is way long over due, my social/love life has been completely pathethic.. well NO MORE!

To give you guys a lil infor about myself so you know how this Journal will mean to me and how it will change my life forever . I just hope that I will stick to this and I need you guys encouragement more then ever.

Am a 25 year old virgin never had a gf. Kissing a girl is the closest I came to being physical with a female but am not sure if that even counts cause its not like a tounge to tounge action or anything.

My goal is to have 100 approuching within 1 month, Since all the guys before me choose 100 (magic number I guess), so will not stop untill I completed the 100 approuch. My approuch is simple but more complex then the "are you single" method. I think that is too direct and probably won't work well for me.

My approuch will mostly be on college/uni campus because I have found it is the best place with many available targets. Anyway, this is how it goes... I see a girl walking or doing whatever.

Me: excuse me, am sorry to bother you but can you tell me where xxx building is?

her: giving me direction or not (doent matter)

me: ok, thanks for your time (as she is about to leave)

me: please wait, what's your name?

Her: my name is xxx

me: my name is Analytic, nice to meet you (shake hand). I just had to introduce myself because I thought you seemed lovely and would like to know you more. If you could give me your number, I'll give you a call and we can hang out.

I came up with that routine, what do you guys think? whatever the case, I think I will stick with mine for awhile and see how that works out. Its night time so am feeling good about it but I think I'll be terrified about delivering the last line, its quite a mouth full and I think going commando like this for an inexperience guy like me is gonna lead to inaction. We shall see tho, lets see how I react tomorrow!

I would have to approuch 3-4 girl aday to meet my qouta of 100 approuch in 1 month. As of rightnow am confidence that I can do it but it might be a diffrent story game time.

I just want to give you guys some info about looks on myself. Am asian, about 5'7.5, dress well. I don't consider myself very attractive but I don't think am repulsive either. Probably a 6 in looks and based on my experiene with girls and asian. Yea.. I think this is gonna be a wild and bumpy ride!

Am excited but terrified at the same time, I'll keep you guys posted. I appreciate the encouragment but lack of it won't stop me either. Its now or never. The time is now!

 

[OddManOut85]

good luck.kind of got me thinking,the whole approach thing.i work a retail job,so customer service is a big thing.and on a daily basis,i probably get 50,60 approaches.from all sorts of women.attractive,and not so attractive lol.i try to take it as good practice.the ironic thing about is,its not quite the pick up environment or however you want to put it.

 

[Analytic]

I just woke up so nothing to report yet, I just wanna share some feeling with you guys that I thought were intresting. I was so hype and thought I could do routine approuch quite easily. I was going through the motion in my head, I was such a DJ, nothing was ever gonna stop me.

Come morning, the sun came out. Its a beautiful day outside, even on such a day reality sets in and am having doubts, I start to think about my imperfections.

Thinking about it now, I shouldn have made this entry and psyche myself out. I will do this no matter what. I'll drop by the school in a few and report back later tonight, I won't leave the school untill 3-4 approuches.

Fallen33 - I know its kind of ballsy, I actually have approuched using even ballsier routine and scare sh!tless but I made it ok so this is not a problem for me. I run the method through my head many times and I can do it. I find it akward to start talking to her out of the blue and I also think my social skill sucks, with me being isolated for so long, am extremely dull. I just want to get over my fear of approuching with a ballsy approuch for faster result, I don't have time to fvck around like I was a teenager anymore. According to the 40 yearold virgin, I have to cram pimpage!

 

[Holland]

NICE!

Good luck to you, mate.

I'm with ya. And i'm going to be honest over here too. I'm also a virgin, 19 yo though. Most intimate contact was making out in girls bedroom.
I just started at uni, so guess it's about damn time I get this shiit handled (FOR REAL!). No more practicing eye contact and practicing within my social circle. Straight out getting those digits and setting dates. I'm also trying to reach 100 approaches. I have two down so far.

I got a number and date past week, but no kissing yet (didn't take things to the next level physicly (stupid me, but she seemed to like me so maybe later).

I hope you don't mind if I post my progress here too from time to time (I won't do it that frequently). Just didn't want to make a whole thread for myself.

I don't know if your approach is good, since I'm not that experienced with approaching, but I think you should use an other opener, cause it seems like a pretty obvious question and she'll see that you don't really wanted to know that. Just go for something more direct I guess.

 

[SamePendo]

I will stick with mine for awhile and see how that works out.

I won't tell you if I'd use it or not. I will wait to see your 3,4 approach reports, and then give you some alternatives.

Go Analytic go! :cheer:


ps. I got 3 #s yesterday, in a non-party environment.

 

[Analytic]

Thursday September 21, 2006

Man.. what a day.. my feet is killing me rightnow and I got cramps walking home, it was pretty funny. I was hoppling around and people were looking at me wierd.

I din't get much sleep today, I slept at 6 am because of the anxiety for today. My complexion was wack! my face has soo uneven and ugly but I wasnt gonna let such a thing stop me. Luckily for me, I have a sense of fashion so that always boost me a couple of points ahead of the other guys. So after dressing up in my best gear, I feel confidence and ready to go to battle.

I drive but am taking the bus to school cause I dont wanna pay money for visitor parking, plus I might spot cuties waiting for the bus. While waiting I chat up a couple of dudes to get warmed up. The guy said this school ratio of girls to guys was like 3:1, very intresting!

Approuch #1
So am at school walking around getting used to the enviroment around me, I spot this HB7 Asian. I was green so I din't have to balls to approuch after circling the building a couple of times I decided to approuch.

Me: Hi, excuse me... can I ask you something?

HB7: sure

Me: Am looking for room 2115, can you tell me where it is? (we chit chat abit about direction and sh!t)

After talking to her for about 5 min, some guy drove up and she said thats her ride. I asked if thats her boyfriend and she said yes. She told me maybe she'll see my again somtimes and hope I find my room. Overall she was really nice and I think there was IOI.

Approuch #2
I was sitting down taking a break from all the walking around campus and spot alot of cute girls, there was this girl especially that stand out. She has an attractive face and a great body for an asian. I could tell she play sport because she was caring a sport bag. I was sitting down and she walked by so I din't have a chance to approuch. However, I got up and start walking around and I saw her sitting down doing her home work.

Me: Hey, excuse me. Can I ask you a question?

HB8: Yea sure (smiling and blushing)

Me: Am looking for blah blah

HB8: Wow you're not even close

Me: So the building is not in here?

HB8: No the building is on the otherside

Me: Why don't you take me there?

HB8: I'll draw it out for you

Me: Umm... (I pretend I din't get it and making a wierd face)

HB8: Ok i'll take you there, lucky for you am on a break

While walking to the building we chatted about where shes from and she asked me what I do. Turns out shes 19. When we arrived at the building, the conversation goes.

Me: Hey we should hangout sometimes.

HB8: I don't think my boyfriend would approve (she then showed me her ring)

Me: You're only 19 and are already engage?

Hb8: No its a promise ring

Me: It still early, don't you wanna experience life first?

HB8: I already did (Bull****, I can tell)

Me: Ok thanks alot HB8, See you around

I did some other approuches too but am not gonna count them because they din't lead anywhere meaningful. I found that there are a certain type of girl I attract. They usually have the same clothing style I do but in a female kind of ways. You might have noticed all the girls I approuch were Asians, reason is because I don't find caucasian girls attractive unless shes like a bombshell hotness or something plus I find them intimidating so with all those factors I just din't feel like approuching them.

It was hard finding girls I like since am picky who I approuch, things could have went alot faster If I was able to find the girls I want to get to know. Tomorrow I'll go to the school with lots of asian, hopefully I'll get more approuches done there. I din't stick to my routine correctly, perhaps it IS too ballsy, I gotta brush up on the routine abit.

All in all am happy that I took action today, this is the first time am ever so serious about something. There were times I wanted to go home and sleep but I told myself that I can't leave untill I meet my qouta. I wanted to do 3 approuch but I managed to do 2, after 4 hours of walking around. My mind was completely numb, I couldn think straight. I was on some kind of high and it isnt a good one.

Sticking point:


-I could'n speak in a clear tone, I feel like I was forcing out words.
-use more ****y and funny
-3 sec rule
-don't waste time sitting around
-don't wait for opportunity to use the same routine but come up with new ones to use to fit the situation.

This Journal is way harder then I thought it would be, I dedicated my whole day for this. Am getting 100 approuch no matter what!

2/100 Approuches!

 

[SamePendo]

Do me a favor, besides doing those sticking points you put, approach caucasian women too, even though they're not your ideal type of chick ok? Humor me, and we'll talk about results of doing so tomorrow.

 

[Analytic]

Do me a favor, besides doing those sticking points you put, approach caucasian women too, even though they're not your ideal type of chick ok? Humor me, and we'll talk about results of doing so tomorrow.

I was thinking of approuching one just for the hell of it. I may start getting attracted to caucasian chicks once I start approuching because used to only be attracted to caucasion chicks and find asian chicks a turn off. We shall see!

 

[librito]

keep it up man, you are an example for all of us.
pugs was an extraordinary man that came thru here and also
taught us how to be a man.
I know you will do the same.
five stars for you on your first day to become the man you wil be very soon.

 

[Analytic]

Thanks for the kind word librito.

I started reading some Mystery Method Venusian art books that Resilient recommended (thanks dude), I can't believe all the things am doing wrong but thats ok. Am just getting over my fear, I will incorporate some of Mystery stuff into my approuch and see how that goes. Will keep you guys updated.

 

[Analytic]

I have decided to stop reading Mystery book and just do my own thing. It is not the time for me to get confused and get information overload which leads to inaction.

I got a good sleep today even though I slept at 5 am, still struggling to sleep because of anxiety but its getting a liltle better. I woke up today not as enthusiastic as yesterday, am I thinking about quiting already? it is sooo easy to quit and go back to your comfort zone but NO I can't stop, have to push forward no matter what my brain is telling me.

I changed the routine to something similiar and have a comeback for diffrent senerio, let me know what you guys think.

Me: Hey can you help me?
Her: Yes?
Me: Can you tell me where xxx room is?
Her: I don't know or blah blah (doent matter)
Me: Ok thanks, whats your name?
Her: My name is xxx
Me: My name is Analytic, I gotta go now but you seems really cool. Why don't you give me your number and we can hangout sometimes.

If she says she has a boyfriend, I would give her a wierd look and say "Good for you but thats not what I asked" this will confused her. Am not sure how girls are gonna react to this but it will lead to me telling her that sometimes a guy will ask for your number because he wants to make a new friend.

If she gives me a number without problem then great. I think this is a good opener althought it still ballsy for someone with my experience, but after yesterday field I think I can manage it this time. Stay tune!

 

[resilient]

Don't sweat the Mystery e-book. It's a scientific approach to seduction and can come off confusing at first glance.

... I first discovered the pua community last November after my older brother gave me the url with SoSuave as my introduction. I printed out every single article on the main page, multicolored highlighted everything and took notes, then moved onto DJ bible. It was information overload before even doing my first approach.

When I actually got out in the "field" to approach, I had been thinking about 20 ways to open, but couldn't agree on one I liked.

Finally, I decided to just have a wing read me a line, and then I went at that moment and did it. I had such a rush from doing it, but became more confident the more I felt the fear, and did it anyway.

And then another thing I thought about was, what is the worst thing that could happen? she could tell me to f* off? Sure, no prob. I'd still be alive and just the same anyway.

I've done 500+ approaches this year, and not a single approach did a girl tell me to go f* myself. Women are nice. Allow them to be teachers to your experience.

I think after all a while you'll have more calibration for social interactions and what you're doing that works and what doesn't. Start small and take small steps if you have to. Just remember self-improvement(which is really what you're doing when approaching) is a life long learning process that goes beyond just women.

Style had been approaching for 6 months in the field doing AFC stuff before he even met up with Mystery. So contrary to his book, he wasn't a mPUA over night.

If you want some real basic learning material than read the DJ bootcamp pdf, and instead of an 8 week bootcamp, you can double it to 16.

Whatever the case, stay commited, as buckling down and taking action will be the only way to develop confidence. We can't do it just by reading, we have to act on what we've learned.

I also highly recommend doing affirmation when starting this stuff out. It did wonders to my self-esteem.

I'll check on this thread from time to time.

 

[Analytic]

Thanks for the post Resilient, I'll look forward to your comment on my later approuches.

 

[Analytic]

Friday September 22, 2006

Today was a pretty bad day approuching wise. I woke up and feeling crappy but after the shower then its all good. Am abit excited about sarging in a new school in downtown. I got to the Train station, it turns out that the train don't run at this hour but I din't know that and waited for more then an hour. While waiting I approuch 2 girl asking for direction, one was sitting beside the other. Am not gonna go into what we talked about because I'll just bore you guys but an approuch is an approuch so I'll count it as one.

After an hour and a half I left, at this time my head is feeling numb and its damn cold outside. I should have wear more clothes today. I din't wanna go home with crappy approuches so thought I hit the mall. I wasnt feeling it at all, I just can't ever do mall approuches. I did made small talk with some workers there. After awhile I just went visit my friend. I told him what am doing and hes gonna join me sarging monday or anyday since he works for me so our schedual is pretty flexible. This should be alot more fun with a wing, am excited!

Too bad about today though, I'll make it for it next time.

3/100 approuches!

 

[Holland]

Nice job with the approaches. I haven't done one new.
Did go out yesterday night and met the girl that I went out with earlier. I busted on her during the evening and holded hands and kissed her later when she left. Didn't made out with her though. My buddy's we're like: "Damn dude, you could've easily done it" but I was like, fuuck it dude, I made progress and that's for next time. I'll stick to this quote of David D. as long as my physicly advancing is still in the making:
"Present lack of physical experience as teasing and self control."
Progressing slowly builds anticipation and she seems to really like me so I think I'll be fine .
I'll keep you guys updated.


Hey analytic, what about this as a response:

If she says she has a boyfriend,
say: "Well, I'm not interested in him, I'm interested in you"
or: "Well, I'm happy for you..... And I understand that that is a whole accomplishment for someone like you...... but for most people that's kind of normal so I think you should consider not telling that to people you just met."

 

[Impact]

You're doin' well, but let me give you some suggestions:

- What is actually your goal, to approach 100 girls in a month or lose virginity? You have to define exactly your goal.
- Set the deadline: i.e. till 1. October I will have approached 100 girls.
- Break your goal in smaller ones. In this case I would approach 10 girls the first week, 20 the second, 30 the third... you get the idea.
- Don't make the mistake of thinking that direct approaches are not for you. Maybe not right now, but as you get better you will start looking for ways to get better and faster results. And being direct saves a lot of time, you just have to know when the moment is right.

good luck!

 

[Analytic]

Holland - Good on you with that girl, you should have confidence knowing a girl likes you and use that as momentum to approuch new girl. I know I would. As for the respond, it seems like a mouthful and I don't think am ready for a neg rightnow. Thinking about it, its kinda of an insult, have you tested this before and what kind of respond did you get?

Impact - Thanks for the suggestion, my only goal is 100 approuches within 1 month. The 100 approuches are actually a small goal. I will make other goal after this is complete, am not making any goals for loosing my virginity or anything like that. I want to keep things as simple as possible.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

I read your new template. I think a bit more rapport would help so that even if she gives u the number she knows who you are when you call. Good luck man, I'll be reading up on ya

 

[Holland]

I think you should tell it in a joking way. Like you're making fun of her trying to impress you with her boyfriend.


Good point Impact of the whole defining the goal thing.

My main goal is to lose virginity, then date a couple of women and get into a relationship when I find someone I like.
The approach thing is more a sidegoal. I just want to get that so I can be more open towards people and especially attractive women.
I'm not the type of guy who wants to flow girls within a couple hours after meeting and then go on to the next one (and I don't want be that way either, at least not now, maybe later in my life).
I just want to have fun and enjoy a great sexual relationship (or experiences) with any woman of my choice.

I also quit masturbating so that'll help too I guess.
Quit 3 weeks ago. Then made it to one week.
Started again, made it to 2 weeks today.
And now I'm going for 3 weeks. And when I'll get there I'll go for 4 weeks, but I hope to have had sex by then.
Just wanted to build it off slowly, so I won't have to go crazy.

 

[Analytic]

Microphone Fiend - I see what you're saying, I'll keep this in mind.

Holland - Loosing virginity sounds like big goal for me rightnow, me and my friend are still looking for an apt. I quit masturbating too, 4 days now without chocking it... damn am horny as hell, am not sure how long I can hold out for. I think I will build it up slowly like you.