"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Violently ****bloked and weird situation lastnight?

HeyPachuco!

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Went to a club last night.

The atmosphere was really tense. As soon as me my buds walked in, we where literally on the dancefloor/ battlefield. Was reall up close and personal.

All eyes where on us,when we stepped in. We where clocking who was the whosand who where the nobodies. Anyway, I took charge and got a drink.

Stood their, nodding my head to the numerous songs, had 2 girls at the bar steer at me whispering for ages.

Anyway, 45mins into it, 3 girls walk in. Linked with some other people that where already there. One of them out of the group was dancing directly infront of me, my buddy who was wasted, said "shes dancing for you man ...I'll race you .."

Never ended up talking to her but ended up talking to another girl who was associated with her (just as goodlooking if not better)

Here's why I FAILED: Towards the end of the night, one of my buddies gets pissed off with the bartender and through his glass behind the counter. Bouncers scuffled with us for about 60seconds till we was outside. See girl again as she's going to her friends car.

I say " Why you running babe ...lol, get in the Lamborghini and I *flash my keys* .." She says " OH where going now, my friend wants to leave,where leaving .." - Her friend comes, " Gets in driver seat, says " She's gotta say bye to HER BOYFRIEND ..:) " Three guys behind me, obviously knew these girls ( I never knew this), One of them must've knew her or was speaking to her in the club.

As I grew a 2minute rapport, Girl I was talking to says " LET ME GIVE YOU MY NUMBER ", I give her the phone, she types it in. As I'm about to ask for her name. This chump says "ITS A FAKE NUMBER ..." I say "Dude, why are you ****BLOCKING ..?, yh sure it is" Girl doesn't say anything. Then he says "GO ON THEN, RING IT, I GURANTEE YOU ITS A FAKE NUMBER .."

So me, confused out of my mind. Thinking 1) "How does this guy know if it is and what if it is fake", and 2), "WHY THE EFF IS HE ****BLOCKING?" Anyway,girls drive off,never got a name, nearly got into a fight with the Chump and his friends. Someother HB9 pushes me away from the situation and says "cool down ..its not that" - I think she was with her b/f throughout the whole night (which was one of the Chumps's friends), however she was giving me the eye as soon as I got in the club??? Maybe she just wanted to talk to me I dunno!?

Obviously a loose cannon. But all in all. I know I was wrong for speaking to the girl after the club when everyone was leaving. But what I liked to know from any of you experienced guys is ... WHY DID SHE SUGGEST SHE'LL GIVE ME HER NUMBER, WHEN I DIDN'T ASK FOR IT.. ?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sounds like she wanted to quickly get rid of you without creating an awkward situation by blowing you off. Thus, the 'fake' number. Did you try calling it?

I would have waved the two staring girls over, were I in your situation.
 

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Sir Shinra said:
Sounds like she wanted to quickly get rid of you without creating an awkward situation by blowing you off. Thus, the 'fake' number. Did you try calling it?

I would have waved the two staring girls over, were I in your situation.
The 2 girls weren't very nice thou. They where there the whole night. Just at the bar.

Anyway, why would she blow me off like that? When she was first to IMPLY " let me give you my number"? I can understand if I asked and she gave a fake number, but I didnt even say that.

Plus I was only talking to her for a short period of time. Her attention wasnt elsewhere, so why the blowoff?if that was the case?

That was just downright ****blocking,because he probably liked her and didnt pluck up the courage to ask her himself, or he did get through and got the number,and wanted to be the only male that got it?

I'll never know now. They seem like regulars. So I'll be going to that club again, with a vengence.

I lost the number during the mini-melee.
 

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Get in the Lamburghini ??

Do you actually have a lamburghini or did you call your honda,ford, chevy or another car a lambo lol.. That is the biggest thing i am wondering at and laughing as i am thinking about it.
 

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money in the bank ... on to the next one until you meet again. it's a game of numers (volume)... keep sargin man!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Haha!

No, I don't own a Lamborghini (Not YET!!!) ;) It was a little side joke.

Anyway, I lost the number during the melee. Can anyone tell me about this situation through EXPERIENCE? As its strange.

Girl implies to give number. Talk to her for less than 5 minutes.

I accept.

****blocked being told its a fake number by some randon dude?
 
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There are women who are fed up of being approached in nightclubs every week by men wanting their numbers, so give out fake numbers.

There are women with boyfriends who attend nightclubs and there are women who aren't interested in getting with any man.

Not everyone who goes to a nightclub goes to hook up.

You were politely brushed off by this girl, just accept it and be thankful you weren't beaten to a pulp.
 

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Energizer -

What are you doing next week? If you're not busy. Lets hook up and go down to this club. I'm sure those girls we'll be there next week. They're regulars. Lets see how you get ontop in a tense/ multicultural enviroment.

Lets put that energy bar to the test !!!

I DO NOT GET POLITELY BRUSHED OFF. I'm animal mother. Either I get rejected badly and thats it or nothing else. Beaten to a pulp? You have to pay a toll first for that to EVER HAPPEN.
 
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Where is your residence?

I get on very well in a tense environment, London's nightlife is fairly intense. London is multicultural too. The difference between me and you is I go to clubs to party it up on the dancefloor, have shot competitions with my mates and enjoy friendly banter. If I pull a woman or women then that's fantastic.

I go to a club to enjoy a night out with mates, you seem to go to score women, which is fine, but you've gotta accept that clubs are a battle ground and when you wanna play ball with a girl, she might not fancy it, evidently this girl didn't wanna play ball.
 

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Thats exactly what I go to do when ever I go out.

Didin't you read what I put? I said as soon as I got in there, literally stepped in. I went to the bar. I was drinking all night. Grinning and looking at everyone with my pint.

I live near Notting Hill (Wesbourne Park- West London). I don't know how you've come to that conclusion that I got shafted? I can accept a defeat when I see it (it only makes me more triumph in the longrun).

But somewhere between the lines, this guy was obviously interacting with this girl or knew them. And he C/B'd me infront of everyone.If anything. She was giving me eyecontact when she arrived.

What makes you ASSUME I got shafted and she didn't wanna play ball?

More commonly, with London girls as you know, they say this: "Sorry, gotta go naaaa " or something which is crude. This girl didnt give off any of that? She implied to me for the number, I dont think I was even going to ask her. I was part-wasted as it was. I wasn't a pest or nuisance.I was still cool and calm. She wasnt saying "I need to go" or nothing. She was in the back car seat. I was outside. She could've just ignored me.

There's no way I'm going to bowdown and take it, and precipitate that I got shafted. I refuse that was the case . I know what a brush off is dude. Where do you goclubbing?

I assum Leciester Square? West End? EC areas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did you ever get around to ringing the number?

I party in numerous places my friend, I go to loads of places in and out of London.

I'll take you up on your offer though.
 
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