"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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group dates are purely for females. lots of chat, lots of men paying money stuff and.. no intimacy other than maybe a hug? I actually went on one of these in junior high (ice skating and burgers) and wow I still remember how lame it was to this day
 

Bokanovsky

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Depends on the context. It's okay to go on a "group date" if it's being set up by a mutual friend. But if you've just met a girl and asked her out on a one-on-one date and she says "I'll bring a girl friend along, why don't you invite one of your friends?" it's a bad sign.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dasein

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Group dates area fine when you want to go out in a group and do something with a bunch of folks. When you are working a new woman you haven't slept with yet though? Avoid at all costs.
 
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