"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Video: Frenchman Sarging Women in NYC

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Le Parisien

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This is a very interesting "reality TV" kind of stuff.

But the guy sucks! His approach sucks, his questions suck big time(usually unintersteing close ended questions), and on top of it his accent sucks!
Plus he's trying to play the I'm the frenchie and you are supposed to be attracted simply because I'm a frenchie card...
"Romania... is it civilized over there?" What kind of "nice" question is that? Lucky the girl also likes France.

I know it's what his friend wanted to film, but walking up to any stranger in signt is a big NO NO. I bet 99% of the email addresses and 100% of the phone numbers he got are fake.

This is NOT the way to go!!!
 

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Originally posted by Le Parisien

But the guy sucks! His approach sucks, his questions suck big time(usually unintersteing close ended questions), and on top of it his accent sucks!
Plus he's trying to play the I'm the frenchie and you are supposed to be attracted simply because I'm a frenchie card...

Yes he suck in the art of seduction because you can tell he is a beginner. However the more he approaches the more confidence he is going to get and that is half the battle won.

Anyone that is not afraid to start a conversation with a strange girl does not suck in my book.

Originally posted by Le Parisien
I know it's what his friend wanted to film, but walking up to any stranger in signt is a big NO NO. I bet 99% of the email addresses and 100% of the phone numbers he got are fake.

This is NOT the way to go!!!

THIS IS EXECTLY THE WAY TO GO!!

If you are socially inept to talk to women and you fear them, the best way to get over this is to throw yourself in there and talk to as many strangers as you can. Who cares if the email addresses were fake?? the more you approach the less likely one of the girl's will give you a fake address and the more likely you are going to score. You are also going to get better at it which is the most important thing.

This guy is ahead of 80% of the people who come to this site.

DjDamage
 

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Originally posted by DJDamage

THIS IS EXECTLY THE WAY TO GO!!

If you are socially inept to talk to women and you fear them, the best way to get over this is to throw yourself in there and talk to as many strangers as you can. Who cares if the email addresses were fake?? the more you approach the less likely one of the girl's will give you a fake address and the more likely you are going to score. You are also going to get better at it which is the most important thing.

This guy is ahead of 80% of the people who come to this site.

DjDamage
Ok, if we are talking about socially inept people, yeah sure, it would be a good exercise. But then it's NOT about attracting females.

For the "normal" people who don't have any problem talking to strangers, when the circumstances are right, this is just unnecessary.
Personally, I'm very social, talking to strangers all the time. But I don't just talk to any girl. I only respond to subtle hint of interest (a glimpse, body language, or sometimes the girl would subltely "follow" you in the metro for example, if it's not too far away from her normal course etc...), then I would "attack"...
:D
 

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This is what happens when newbies try to improv. Notice how most of the girls go straight to screening him after he goes for rapport. "What do you do?" etc, sitting back all powerful, because they know this guy wants them. This heavily reminds me of my early approaches. He needs some canned stuff and I guarantee that he will get VERY good if he finds this community. He is already approaching and asking for feedback... which is doing more than probably 93% of the guys on this site. It's not like he thinks he's this mackdaddy pimp. He says "I need a teacher to tell me
what I am doing wrong and right."

He is aware that he's boring the girls with his questions and that they are screening him from the get-go. He is LEARNING FAST. Give this guy some opinion openers, routines, and teases and he's going to rock.

LOL, btw it was hilarious when he dropped his mic and the girl didn'tnotice.

And on a sidenote, he started actually getting some email closes as time wore on and he started internalizing the right behaviors.

And this guy is also trying to close the girls, no matter what which is very fvcking commendable. Awesome stuff.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This guy rocks

Hey man, okay his approaches might " suck" but atleast they're pretty admirable. This guy is doing what alot of us are not doing these days. He's atleast taking ACTION.
 

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Ok,cool.

Let me break down why the sh!t is whack.

Appearance:

1.He's way too skinny.
2.He's dressed like a math T.A.
3.His hair...come your hair,people.Do me that favor.

Game:

1.Too many stupid questions.
2.He didn't even game anyone.All he did was chit-chat(the problem most males have).He just asked random question and semi-closed..lol.You can tell people were annoyed.
3.He didn't have ANY sexual b-l at all.Anything.

He just talked sh!t...that's it.How is a chic supposed to know what you're doing?Or what you mean?

B-L & attitude is very important that's 80% of the "verbal game".You don't even have to say that much.
 

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I don't think it's really the way to go.

When I want to learn something I learn from the people who do it best. If I want to sing, I go to a singing teacher. If I want to dance, I look at the great ones and follow their steps, all that.

If this guy wants to sarge women, he should learn first what the **** to lean towards to. Yes he can learn by himself but he'll get giant leaps forward if he learns from the ones that are good at that.
 

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Not great approaches, but at least he's approaching. He made mistakes that I used to make all the time(and still do accidentally) and that is asking about any kind of school or job situation. Instant interest killer IMO but he seemed to get that idea too as he went on and killed those questions. Street approaching definitely requires some pretty badass game...I've really come to respect those who can pull it off well now
 

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Atleast he tried. There's no written rule saying that you can't record your approaching efforts and post them on the internet as if it's a video blog.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Although it is kind of fun playing a little game with the video. List 25 things he did wrong. :) Then list 25 things he did right.
 

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women don't trust men in outdoor public places. It's even worse when it is newyork city. He might have better chance in college libary.
 
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