"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Very Strange Situation... Good Girl is weirding me out

SurfsupinHawaii

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okay here's my situation: I am talking to a few girls right now but one of them is a really quality girl probably a 6 or so, but super naive and pure. we've been on a few dates, but its just not happenin. like shes 21 and has never made out with a guy. she lived in the Philipines for her first 18 years before comming out here to Hawaii. so basically she is really innocent and doesn't know much regarding "game."

now I genuinely like her, think shes a really nice person but there just isn't that sexual spark, mostly due to the fact that her innocence and stuff kinda weirds me out. I'm used to just being able to go for it and usually get what I want from a girl. but she is different and in a sense it makes me uneasy. like tonight we were supposed to go out to dinner but I didnt call her, until like 73o and that was to cancel. I'm just not feeling "it".

its kinda hard to explain but I usually only persue females when I feel there is a sexual attraction and some kind of connection.. I know she is attracted to me and likes me because she has told me and so has her best friend but its just new for me to be talking to a girl like this. we sleep together and watch movies but it almost feels like a brother/sister thing..not to mention that I wouldnt wanna hurt her feelings or anything and I dont think I want anything that serious right now, so I'm thinking of just being her friend..

have any of you ever met girls like this? like super prudes who are really sweet but just don't provide that spark or chemistry.. almost seems like a chick talking about an AFC that is super sweet but doesn't turn her on sexually..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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belividere

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Please trust me on this. Tell her your intentions immediately and than do not contact her.
 

Jake-inator

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Tap that ho.

She's sleeping over at your place, and obviously wants some.
And here you are, wanting a challenge: some girl who won't sleep with you.

I went with my morals last time in that situation and i'm still kicking myself for it.
 

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I met someone from Philippines, a few to mention, I like them... they are georgeous, conservative, and very helpful. don't you just love that?

You also mentioned the spark... Eww, you have to amplify the chemistry in order to have a spark. You are there, you sleep with her, most women in any country any custom, is always a woman to me. They still love being swept off thier feet at the moment but 100% they do not like being used.

So if you one to turn this thing on, you have to make the first move, then take it from there. Read some posts of Senior Finger, I like them a lot.

P.S. Don't think like a dumb Average Frustrated Joe, think like an Alpha Male, be dominant, lead, and be interesting.

Regards

Wind20mph
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Big Eee Zee

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Congratulations, dude! You said you were looking for a girl of "better caliber" a while ago, now it seems you found her.

I'd say throw caution into the wind. Take her somewhere romantic and see if you can get to first base. After you make out with her it will be possible to tell whether or not you are really attracted to her. If you are, make it work. If you aren't, then you can just be really close friends.


At least, thats my opinion.
 

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Come on now, a virgin hottie? well I guess she is only a 6 so I see where the attraction falls off. Well if she has a hot body and she is a virgin, I personally would fuk. Virgins are so rare these days LOL. Yea but 'you have to amplify the chemistry' like wind said. Dood if you think she is hot and she is a virgin, that should be enough of a turn on. Get her to touch your penis, she might like it. Come on, for all of us who know what its like... There is nothing better or more erotic than teaching a girl how to give head and have sex.
 

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I decided to back off.. like not call her.. gonna let her make the next move if she wants some.. shes nice and all but I'm not gonna lose sleep if we don't chill anymore.. thats just me
 

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feel you pain

I feel your pain friend, hopefully she'll take the next step and give you some assurance that she's worth it. :)
 
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