Very Important Question on Women, Life and Happiness

[channel7]

Hello, fellows

I have an important question to ask. Ok, first off I am a 32 year old man. I have very limited sexual experiences with women. It is not because of a lack of confidence or maturity. I guess after having a relationship that lasted for years then later to break up. I never thought I would be in a position to indulge in the sexual arena again. I have had maybe give or take 3 woman in my lifetime. However, I have met a woman that I have known for about 6 or 7 years. I know her quite well. I once dated her about 5 years ago. We had oral sex once or twice. Intercourse once even though I lost my erection. Mainly because I was use to having sex with my first love which lasted years. However, now I have come into contact with this woman again. It has been 5 years since we last saw one another. My feelings for her are even more determined then in the past. However, I know she has more experience then I do. She even knows that I have a little bit of experience. I am wondering is this a good or bad thing. She basically has control of the game.

We have developed strong feelings for one another. I am wondering how should I approach this situation. I have been concentrating on performance issues. However, I have been reading a lot on subjects like Tantra, Kamasutra, Sexual Kung Fu, and Multiple Male Orgasm. I have been trying to prepare myself. I know it sounds crazy. I have always done research. I guess you can say that I have never truly allowed myself to be free with sex. I have always had fears of getting a woman pregnant or catching a diease.

I am at an age where I want to live and be free to enjoy sex. However, I guess this is why I have come asking for advice. So please feel free to answer and say whatever comes to mind.

I will listen

Thanks,

Fellows

 

[joekerr31]

since you didnt lose your erection with your first love, it sounds like this is all anxiety based.

sounds like you were thinking too much about what she was thinking whiel you were making love. then probably worried about not being good in bed. then guess what... it happened.

self fulfilling prophecy.

my suggestion is just don't bother having sex with her until you feel comfortable with her.

spend a few nights cuddling or sleeping together with no sex.

after that it won't be a problem.

if it is then it's becuase you still feel anxiety over her thinking negatively about you if you don't perform well.

basically you're freezing up and hence losing your boner.

and i can say this. im damn good in bed but i also know that chics dont realy care about that nearly as much as you think. if a chic is emotionally attached to, and provided shes a good woman with decent morals and values, the thing she values most is what comes before and what comes after sex.

the actually sex is nice to have, but not anywhere near as important as you think.

i mean, you know how i get a chic horny and wanting more and more sex? not by screwing her well, but treating her well AFTER sex. YOu do that and they will want to have sex with you ALL the time just to get the AFTER sex attention.

J

 

[Tazman]

A friend of mine who's about 26 was a little nervous about having sex with a new gf. It had been a while since he had sex and he didn't want to disappoint her. Well, he said when it came down to it he just did whatever he felt at the moment and she loved it. Basically, he did things to her (explored her body) and didn't "think" about anything just did what he wanted, and he believes that his "assertiveness" was a big turn on for her. I'm definitely going to give that a shot (when I get the chance, lol).

 

[channel7]

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I am sorry about the long wait.

 

[sexysuave]

There's a book called "The Secrets of Sensual Lovemaking : The Ultimate in Female Ecstasy" by Tommy Leonardi. Pick it up, the guy pretty much gives you a way to make a women have an ejaculatory orgasm with your fingers. No matter what happens, this book will help you make a woman feel GREAT. During this process, hopefully you will get excited enough to be able to perform. If this fails, see a specialist. It's probably an anxiety problem, maybe they'll subscribe somethign for ya, but I'd definitely read that book if I was you.