"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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VERY funny With a 7.5.. Need some help from fellow DJ's. Somewhat tricky.

aznxboi

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Hey Fella,

Been almost a year since I been on this board. Had my fair share of women since then. But haven't found the "girlfriend yet."

Alright guys, here a funny. So there is a 7.5 I been working with. She pretty cute. I been teasing her, making fun of her, and just having a good time. I have known her for about 3 months. And worked with her for maybe 5 or 6 times. I haven't talk to her much during winter break. She love making fun of me (in a good playful way).

So, last Saturday we started to talk again. She is single at the moment. We were suppose to hang out on Tuesday, but she was very sick. I wanted to see was this some bull**** excuse or whatever, so I stopped by her place with a box of cookies. Apparently she was not feeling well, and gave me a huge hug when she saw me. The next day, I text her asking is she feeling a little better. She responded back "a little better." (The teasing, making fun of her, has went down. I was showing my caring side). Then I asked her to hang out with me the next day, she said she has to go do something with her brother. Then now today, I invited her out and she said she have to hang out with one of her guy friend from school. This dude drives her basically everywhere, and wait for her to get off work. She said they are just "friends."

Basically, the conversation between me and her has died down a bit, after I visit her with the cookies when she was sick. And showing i'm sweet and caring. I quickly realize what the heck I was doing in 2 days. I never hang out with her solo before outside of work.

How can I go by this fellas? Should I drop by her place tonight and Dj it up, which in the beginning which worked out fine? Or is it too late. I have no idea, why the heck I got her the cookie and started acting caring. I cant believe this MADE this huge of a change. But, I need to take advantage of this AFC guy friend of her that willing to drive her everywhere, before its too late. I think a lot of damage has been done on my part.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pingpongz

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She probably thinks you're a stalker. Try ignoring her for a couple weeks.
 

COD

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what do U want......U said so yourself, the negs, banter already worked, then U just abandoned an pour on the niceness....WHY.

This stuff is for girlfriend status, doing nice things in hopes to score points BEFORE U SCORE is pointless. Go there make a move......if she down plays it......say OH God look at the time.........I was supposed to pick up my GF from work......see ya.

push pull tactic works best and yes stop stalking her. ACTIONS (FROM HER) speak volumes.
 

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You're being too clingy and needy, showering her with attention, always asking her out even when she gives excuses to not be with you "Need to hang out with friend, don't feel well" etc. Just leave her to simmer a bit, you've given her the attention, now suddenly take it away, ignore and act indifferent to her.
 

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I wanted to changed my Dj`in a bit. I thought it would score some points. Man was I wrong.

Fella's whats the chances of this turning it all around? I want to be the prize, I want to be upper hand, and I want her to be my valentine; but her AFC friend might ask her first before me. Thanks fellas, for the support.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Opps, I didn't show up to her place like stalker status. I called her first, saying I have something for her. And asked for her address and she gave it to me.
 

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Stop acting like a little *****, first of all.

You want her to be your little Valentine? Are you f'n serious? COMPLETELY ignore this girl for two weeks, workout/buy some new clothes so you look better in her eyes, and claim you have a girlfriend.

This approach MIGHT get you a little attention from this girl. Might not. Either way, you're acting like a complete sucker right now.

Good luck turning this situation around.
 

aznxboi

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I feel ya man. I did the dumbest thing ever. I figure, wow this girl have basically everything I'm looking for. In the beginning I don't even like her, I see her as any other girl. Then we started talking more, and I realize there are many traits about her I like. And, did the biggest AFC move by calling her, asking for her address and showing her I care by buying her a box of cookies.

Believe me, I am kicking myself in the ass right now. It was from "cant believe this girl like me so much" to "excuses constantly."
 

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**UPDATE** She text me saying she hungry. I told her "too bad" and the homeless shelter is open. She was like "your so mean" and I basically ignore her today, and prevented myself from calling her or texting her.
 
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