pedroibanez
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Hi guys, before I start, I shud warn you that this is a very complicated situation. And proberly one of the stupidest ones youre ever likely to hear. I really need help with this and I hope you'l be patient. It is a very long story spanning three years but I will take any help anyone offers. Lets see how good you guys really are. good luck! lol
It all began when I was in my second year of high school, I had met this girl Becky about a year befor but I never really rated her much. Howevr, we had a few classes together and we gradually got to know each other quite well and we ended up as best friends, initially, i wasnt attracted to her at the strt of the friendship but after about 7 months, I fell for her.
Having fallen in love with her, I was scared of how she might react if I told her and also I didnt want to risk screwing up the friendship we already had so I kept it a secret and told nobody, not even my other friends. about 9 moths past and I decided that I had to do something to try and communicate the fact that I like her or even try and get her to like me. So around christmas, I told another friend of mine and she suggested that I pretend to go out with her for a short period, to see how Becky would react. I went along with it but noticed now change in her behaviour.
After this I decided that I just had to lay all my cards on the table and tell her how I feel. It was the day after christmas day and I had arranged to stay at her house for the night (on the couch to my misfortune. lol). We watced a film together, and afterwards I told her how I felt. She was a bit shocked, considering that during our friendship, we would often speak about maybe ending up together some day, on one occasion we even planed our wedding (how sad lol). She then asked me various questions, one of which was "How long have you liked me?" I lied and told her that it had been just a couple of weeks as I felt that she wouldnt have liked the truth of me liking her for almost a year and not telling her all that time.
After she quized me she went to bed. In the morning, the whole atmosphere between me and her had changed completely. We were silent in each others presence and everything was akward. After I left her house in the morning, I text her and asked her how she felt. She said that she dosent like me in the same way but doesent want to let it ruin our friendship. I was happy to go along with that at the time. As time passed however, I fell deeper and deeper in love with her but I never told her. after about 4 months the friendship started to **** up. Every conversation we had ended up as an argument and it just left me felling ****. Before I told her that I liked her however, wehad arranged to be prom dates and Becky decided that although of how things were, she still wanted to go with me. So we went together.
After we had had the prom and we had fineshed school. we spent hardly any time together and unfortunatly, I still liked her. Towards the end of the summer she text me saying that she wanted to get the friendship back on track having only spoken occasionally during the summer. I jumped at the chance, anything to spend time with her. So we hung out a cople of times and she knew that I still liked her. But after 2 weeks of hanging out again, I was at sixth form and she had gone to a local college. So we were back in education full time but in separate places.
After a week of being back, she had got a boyfriend called tim. She diddnt tell me for at least 3 weeks. And I only found out because of facebook. I knew who Tim was although I'd never met him. He was one of those people who everybody knows for being a creep. He had a habit of getting with girls alot younger than him. I mean he was 22 at the time and she was only 16. I immeiatly told her who he was out of concern for her reputation. She decided not to believe me and thought I was just jealous. I would repeatedly tell her when I could of how unstable he was. On one occasion, I was walking alone at night and I passed him in the street. He actually picked up a brick and tried to through it at me. He would also cheat on her quite often with girls almost half his age, I would see him regularly in town, getting with random girls. I would always tell Becky what I saw but she just wouldnt listen.
After all this she decided that me and her needed to do something together. So we went to see some bands we both liked togerther. To be fair, all in all I think we both had a really good time. We went to see Enter Shikari In birmingham back in october and that was the last time that we spent together as good frends. After that every conversation we had was an argument. And the worst part was I still loved her.
Her boyfriend Tim was very manipulative and even her friends said to me that they had noticed a change in her character. She became short tempered, *****y, selfish and to be honest, she was a complete ****. At this point I came to the conclusion that she was no longer the person that I fell in love with and it was also bad to have your name linked with her because of the reputation she had gained because of going out with Tim. I decided to just ignor her and do my bet to move on. When she text me, I wouldnt text back etc.
Trying to move on was hard, I needed something to occupy my time. So I would go out with friends clubbing and literaly just have sex with almost any girl that approached me. This went on for just under a year. I had completly forgot about Becky and I was reasonably content.
Then at the start of October 2010, I got a text from her just saying "Hey hws u? we need to hang out soon.
". It was completely out of the blue, so I just ignored it. She would then text me about 4 times a week so I had to reply, and I arranged to go for a drink with her because it was easier than thinking of more excuses not to.
We went to a bar and she told me that she had split up with Tim. She also said that ahe new how she treated and that it was rong and she apologised. I replied by saying that she had now idea how she made me feel and that she would never be able to comprehend it let alone aplogise enough for it. To my suprise, she accepted what I said and agreed with me. She then said that she wanted to get us back to how we were befor everything happened. So I decided that she could try but I wasnt really botherd what she did, I did tell her this and she said she will do it.
Since then, we have been hanging out quite a bit but the friendship still isnt how it was. I guess Its because shes still attached to alot of negative emotions. About a month ago she said that this summer we shoud go to Spain together and do loads of other stuff simelar. (These are things that she would nevr have done before).
Anyway, as it stands right now. The bad thing is I've fallen for her again. But I really dont want to make the same mistakes as last time cus it was so horrible! The question is, what the **** do I do now to get her in a relationship with me????....... I will take any help anyone can offer but what I feel I need is a step by step guide telling me what to do. By the way, thanks very much if your still reading. lol
It all began when I was in my second year of high school, I had met this girl Becky about a year befor but I never really rated her much. Howevr, we had a few classes together and we gradually got to know each other quite well and we ended up as best friends, initially, i wasnt attracted to her at the strt of the friendship but after about 7 months, I fell for her.
Having fallen in love with her, I was scared of how she might react if I told her and also I didnt want to risk screwing up the friendship we already had so I kept it a secret and told nobody, not even my other friends. about 9 moths past and I decided that I had to do something to try and communicate the fact that I like her or even try and get her to like me. So around christmas, I told another friend of mine and she suggested that I pretend to go out with her for a short period, to see how Becky would react. I went along with it but noticed now change in her behaviour.
After this I decided that I just had to lay all my cards on the table and tell her how I feel. It was the day after christmas day and I had arranged to stay at her house for the night (on the couch to my misfortune. lol). We watced a film together, and afterwards I told her how I felt. She was a bit shocked, considering that during our friendship, we would often speak about maybe ending up together some day, on one occasion we even planed our wedding (how sad lol). She then asked me various questions, one of which was "How long have you liked me?" I lied and told her that it had been just a couple of weeks as I felt that she wouldnt have liked the truth of me liking her for almost a year and not telling her all that time.
After she quized me she went to bed. In the morning, the whole atmosphere between me and her had changed completely. We were silent in each others presence and everything was akward. After I left her house in the morning, I text her and asked her how she felt. She said that she dosent like me in the same way but doesent want to let it ruin our friendship. I was happy to go along with that at the time. As time passed however, I fell deeper and deeper in love with her but I never told her. after about 4 months the friendship started to **** up. Every conversation we had ended up as an argument and it just left me felling ****. Before I told her that I liked her however, wehad arranged to be prom dates and Becky decided that although of how things were, she still wanted to go with me. So we went together.
After we had had the prom and we had fineshed school. we spent hardly any time together and unfortunatly, I still liked her. Towards the end of the summer she text me saying that she wanted to get the friendship back on track having only spoken occasionally during the summer. I jumped at the chance, anything to spend time with her. So we hung out a cople of times and she knew that I still liked her. But after 2 weeks of hanging out again, I was at sixth form and she had gone to a local college. So we were back in education full time but in separate places.
After a week of being back, she had got a boyfriend called tim. She diddnt tell me for at least 3 weeks. And I only found out because of facebook. I knew who Tim was although I'd never met him. He was one of those people who everybody knows for being a creep. He had a habit of getting with girls alot younger than him. I mean he was 22 at the time and she was only 16. I immeiatly told her who he was out of concern for her reputation. She decided not to believe me and thought I was just jealous. I would repeatedly tell her when I could of how unstable he was. On one occasion, I was walking alone at night and I passed him in the street. He actually picked up a brick and tried to through it at me. He would also cheat on her quite often with girls almost half his age, I would see him regularly in town, getting with random girls. I would always tell Becky what I saw but she just wouldnt listen.
After all this she decided that me and her needed to do something together. So we went to see some bands we both liked togerther. To be fair, all in all I think we both had a really good time. We went to see Enter Shikari In birmingham back in october and that was the last time that we spent together as good frends. After that every conversation we had was an argument. And the worst part was I still loved her.
Her boyfriend Tim was very manipulative and even her friends said to me that they had noticed a change in her character. She became short tempered, *****y, selfish and to be honest, she was a complete ****. At this point I came to the conclusion that she was no longer the person that I fell in love with and it was also bad to have your name linked with her because of the reputation she had gained because of going out with Tim. I decided to just ignor her and do my bet to move on. When she text me, I wouldnt text back etc.
Trying to move on was hard, I needed something to occupy my time. So I would go out with friends clubbing and literaly just have sex with almost any girl that approached me. This went on for just under a year. I had completly forgot about Becky and I was reasonably content.
Then at the start of October 2010, I got a text from her just saying "Hey hws u? we need to hang out soon.
". It was completely out of the blue, so I just ignored it. She would then text me about 4 times a week so I had to reply, and I arranged to go for a drink with her because it was easier than thinking of more excuses not to.We went to a bar and she told me that she had split up with Tim. She also said that ahe new how she treated and that it was rong and she apologised. I replied by saying that she had now idea how she made me feel and that she would never be able to comprehend it let alone aplogise enough for it. To my suprise, she accepted what I said and agreed with me. She then said that she wanted to get us back to how we were befor everything happened. So I decided that she could try but I wasnt really botherd what she did, I did tell her this and she said she will do it.
Since then, we have been hanging out quite a bit but the friendship still isnt how it was. I guess Its because shes still attached to alot of negative emotions. About a month ago she said that this summer we shoud go to Spain together and do loads of other stuff simelar. (These are things that she would nevr have done before).
Anyway, as it stands right now. The bad thing is I've fallen for her again. But I really dont want to make the same mistakes as last time cus it was so horrible! The question is, what the **** do I do now to get her in a relationship with me????....... I will take any help anyone can offer but what I feel I need is a step by step guide telling me what to do. By the way, thanks very much if your still reading. lol