"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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very confused pick up, what is she on about?

pete101

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i picked up this hot 37 year old business woman in a supermarket saturday evening. the pick up went really well, i went for the number she gave it to me but when i tried to call the phone it didn't ring (she had no reception) she tried to give me her other phones number but that had no reception signal either so i said i'd text her it.

i sent: HB, this is my number it's the most important no. you'll ever save. pete
an hour later she texts me: then you didn't recognise me...haha! HB. x

i was thinking wtf? what is she talking about? the only thing i can think of is that when i went upstairs to use the bathroom when i came out i walked past the canteen/food restaurant food court area and was not wearing my glasses so i may have looked at her if she was eating there and not recognised her and didn't say hi. I have no clue what she's talking about. i just ignored the text.

i texted her 2 days ago (Tues) to meet up: hey HB, lets get together at this dessert place in x place. they do the best desserts in town. im busy the next couple days but how's sat or sun at 4? pete

no response. is it worth me clarifying with her what she meant by not recognising her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Who cares? Don't clarify anything. No need to make mountains out of molehills.

Pretend like you don't know what she's talking about. Her not responding to you could be myriad of things. I'd try texting one more time later today or tomorrow. If no response again, then NEXT.
 

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you should have called her to set up a date. Texting a date set up is really weak sauce imo.
 

pete101

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so i might have made a mistake on friday i text her:

p.s. i dont understand your text abotu not recognising u...? im near sighted and was wearing prescription shades when we met. i cant see without them so that could be it. pete

it took about 3 hours to deliver.

she responds yesterday afternoon: hi that was a joke as you said that your number was important. have been in spain again but i like that place. we can meet next weekend.

this is positive i guess, i dont know if she means this coming weekend or the following week (she's foreign so i dont know if 'next weekend' she means the next coming weekend) and i dont want to clarify something else again.

i haven't responded yet, if she didn't reply to my initial date text and waited 3 days to reply to my 2nd the worst thing i can do is reply the next day. makes me look like i got no options.

should i just offer 1 day this weekend only?
 

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pete101 said:
so i might have made a mistake on friday i text her:

p.s. i dont understand your text abotu not recognising u...? im near sighted and was wearing prescription shades when we met. i cant see without them so that could be it. pete

it took about 3 hours to deliver.

she responds yesterday afternoon: hi that was a joke as you said that your number was important. have been in spain again but i like that place. we can meet next weekend.
Of course it was a joke. Did you really need her to explain that?

this is positive i guess, i dont know if she means this coming weekend or the following week (she's foreign so i dont know if 'next weekend' she means the next coming weekend) and i dont want to clarify something else again.

i haven't responded yet, if she didn't reply to my initial date text and waited 3 days to reply to my 2nd the worst thing i can do is reply the next day. makes me look like i got no options.

should i just offer 1 day this weekend only?

Offer whatever you think will work.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She meant next weekend. No communication before next Thirsday. You call her and chit chat. For date you pick her up at dusk, go have a little bit of fun, then bring her to some secluded place. You could drive to see a view someplace, bring wine and screw driver to open it. Kiss close and f'ck her.
 

pete101

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i text her 2 days after that with:

'ah ok haha. when you said next weekend i assume you meant this coming weekend right? ok i can't do sunday but how's Sat at 4.30? x'

she didn't reply, it's been a week now, i assume she must have meant this weekend coming.

should i just try one more time next week? i.e. let this weekend pass.

i suspect she lost interest with my confusion.
 
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