Varying Confidence

[we all eat food]

One of my problems is that i am a confident person, but for some reason i become shy and quiet and it really does not make sense to me. At one moment I can be the life of the party, the other moment im quiet, almost frozen like. How do i work on this so i can be my normal self when it counts.

 

[supajsilver2]

If you're talking in/with a group of people, attempt to become the center of the conversation. For example, you tell a story related to what everyone is talking about, then all eyes are on you. If it's funny, everyone laughs. Then there's questions about it for you. You give details. Details which lead to other topics. Etc...all in all, just try to become the focus of the group of people talking..

 

[we all eat food]

gotcha, but sometimes if im on a date with a girl, it gets awkard and i jsut become speechless

 

[Themanthatcan]

Hey.If It's your second or third date(and only),if you run out of things to say,just look at her out of the corner of your eye with your face pointed another direction.Smile.Turn her way.Then make eye contact till she says something.Or you could laugh when there is an awkward silence.Just put your hand over your face and laugh lightly.She'll ask "what?" and say somethng like "You don't want to know" or "Nothing".She'll be persistant and want to know what it was so come up w/ a funny story or something to tell her after.That's all I have.