Value: decreasing your company's while increasing yours. Help.

[tryst type]

I have a problem that's recently peaked into my perception.

I'm a shorter than average guy with average to tall guy friends. Recently this has begun crippling my confidence when out with them around girls. That and due to my small figure, I'm easily picked on in jokingly but still value hurting ways.

I've read before about ways to decrease value of others playfully ie saying "oh he's like my little brother" and giving a small squeeze from the side hug to the other guy/friend.

I'm looking for other variations of this because I know it'll greatly highten my stance (pun intended) ha when out and deflect physique jokes.

 

[DonutMan]

If your friends pick on you cause your short, you should get some better friends. But if you want to bring them down to size. Start working out and learn how to fight, then kick their ass next time they say something.

 

[DonutMan]

OH, and if they are putting you down, its probably cause they are just trying to make themselves feel better about some insecurity they have.

 

[tryst type]

I don't think that'd increase my value in front of girls haha. What are some ways I can exhibit confidence by lowering their "natural" (height granted) confidence?

 

[AmazingTricks]

Do the work when they're not around if you think they're going to decrease your value. Or at least plant the seed when they're not around. For the people telling you your friends are insecure about something, or bla bla bla they don't like you, he has no idea what he's talking about. I'm an even six feet and I have a friend that is about 5'3 (on a good day) and he's very skinny, probably like 100 lbs (I'm hoping). Yes, once in a while, we will make a baby joke, or something like that (not all the time), or some other joke, but everybody likes the kid. And he probably gets picked on the most out of all my friends. So my advice is have thicker skin, don't be afraid to joke back with them about them, or laugh at yourself, and that will increase your value because your being confident in yourself. Also, my short friend gets a good amount of leg, so don't worry. And he never gets worked up about a joke.

 

[Randallpink83]

The best way to bring out your value is to seek to bring out the value in others.


...There is no method or tactic for things like this. This is about you and inner game and what you can handle. You just gotta be alpha and confident. Don't try and OUT-ALPHA someone else, Just be who you want.

CHOOSE to feel good inside your skin, Don't judge yourself, and have fun with life, its the only one you got.

Focus on those things and you will start to notice the good effects you have on people, always seek to bring out the value!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Value: decreasing your company's...I'm a shorter than average guy

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_complex

There is a lot more to your value than how tall you are. But when you judge yourself harshly, it lowers your confidence, and you project all of this toward other people. Do what you need to do to be a confident person who does not care at all about other peoples' wisecracks. Words mean nothing.

 

[Dongfu]

Forget about devaluing someone else. That is just re-affirming to yourself that you dont believe you have value.

Nothing, including being tall can substitute a great attitude. Dont you think there are a lot of tall guys with the wrong attitude who are not getting results? One of the most natural DJ's I have ever seen, a friend of my dad's was about 5'2. He was funny and fun to be around, and he had girls all the time, many of them 6 feet tall. It's all attitude and outlook.

 

[AmazingTricks]

Words mean nothing.

I resent that.

 

[DonutMan]

Do the work when they're not around if you think they're going to decrease your value. Or at least plant the seed when they're not around. For the people telling you your friends are insecure about something, or bla bla bla they don't like you, he has no idea what he's talking about. I'm an even six feet and I have a friend that is about 5'3 (on a good day) and he's very skinny, probably like 100 lbs (I'm hoping). Yes, once in a while, we will make a baby joke, or something like that (not all the time), or some other joke, but everybody likes the kid.

If they are picking on him about this regularly in front of other women then they are definitely trying to make themselves look better. This means that they are not confident enough about themselves, and they are ****ty friends. Most mature adults stop picking on people based on their looks when they get out of high school. Im 6'5" and I wouldn't even consider picking on someone because they were short. Definitely take the high ground and ignore them, if they dont get a rise out of you they might stop doing it. Its not worth trying to get back at them behind their back or at all. People like that aren't worth the effort.

 

[MacAvoy]

Words mean nothing.

I resent that.

Why?

 

[Beffing]

start lifting so at least girls can see you do the best with what you have

 

[AmazingTricks]

If they are picking on him about this regularly in front of other women then they are definitely trying to make themselves look better. This means that they are not confident enough about themselves, and they are ****ty friends. Most mature adults stop picking on people based on their looks when they get out of high school. Im 6'5" and I wouldn't even consider picking on someone because they were short. Definitely take the high ground and ignore them, if they dont get a rise out of you they might stop doing it. Its not worth trying to get back at them behind their back or at all. People like that aren't worth the effort.

We make fun of him, and each other. We don't "pick on him." It's called cracking jokes. To each his own.

Why?

Because I'm a writer. And because I bet you can't get laid without saying a word, or make your wife understand that you 'love' her without saying it. Some "words" are meaningless, sure, but not all.