Conversation with a female coworker today. Conversation is basic, catching up on what each other has been doing. Starts to mention something that ”might be inappropriate.” Out of left field comes comments about her breast being too big now after gaining some weight. As if this is an actual problem. Imagine a guy saying, “it’s terrible, my c0ck grew to 10 inches after gaining a few pounds.” I chalk this up to an example of how women will neg themselves to get complements. Working a hybrid work schedule limits the amount of male attention. Ironically this woman is in an LTR but felt compelled to mention her new assets for outside validation. At the same time, she doesn’t want to directly comment about her breast so the conversation turns into a delicate dance of innuendoes and flirting. Made for a fun conversation. So strong was the drive for male attention that a follow up conversation was had on the drive home. If talking about her breast was not desired, then why even mention them? It was a guaranteed way to get the desired response and validation she was looking for. Ego boost achieved.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Validation seeking
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This was a rhetorical question but thanks Rollo.
“I’m feeling insecure about my body and need to hear you compliment me“ was the message.
Rather than share about a recent vacation, it went to fishing. “These new boobs are terrible, I have all this cleavage to deal with now.” “Yeah, and those heels are terrible too. They make your a$$ bump out. Can you please pass me the salt?”
I told her, “As usual If you need support, I can lend a helping hand. Or two.”
“I’m feeling insecure about my body and need to hear you compliment me“ was the message.
Rather than share about a recent vacation, it went to fishing. “These new boobs are terrible, I have all this cleavage to deal with now.” “Yeah, and those heels are terrible too. They make your a$$ bump out. Can you please pass me the salt?”
I told her, “As usual If you need support, I can lend a helping hand. Or two.”
