"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TonyBaloney

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Inspired by the rhetoric of stripper lovers and my own insecurities, I am writing this little pamphlet on the state of the union, that is, the union of ourselves to ourselves.

It seems to me, that oftentimes we are looking for validation from women to confirm to us that we are worthy, manly, likeable and lovable people, because we just cant love ourselves................

Do we continually need to dissect ours and others relationships, to get some opiate to ease the pain inside. Can we not try a new drug, that of self love, self respect??

I am not going gay or celibate - but i'm sorry - i'm fed up with pandering to bxtches the whole time.

Anybody else get cheesed off with it all?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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zekko

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I've never understood this whole "if you love yourself you shouldn't need validation from women" concept.

You can like yourself all you want, that doesn't mean that someone else is going to. Or to put it another way, a fat ugly girl can like herself all she wants, that doesn't mean she's attractive to males.
 

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i think the problem is in being insecure

as for me i could give a **** less watt people think, why? because i feel good about my self, like my self, etc

you dont need validation from anyone or anything, dont seek it, just about buisiness and everyday life towards being seucessfull in every way possible.
 

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TonyBaloney said:
Inspired by the rhetoric of stripper lovers and my own insecurities, I am writing this little pamphlet on the state of the union, that is, the union of ourselves to ourselves.

It seems to me, that oftentimes we are looking for validation from women to confirm to us that we are worthy, manly, likeable and lovable people, because we just cant love ourselves................

Do we continually need to dissect ours and others relationships, to get some opiate to ease the pain inside. Can we not try a new drug, that of self love, self respect??

I am not going gay or celibate - but i'm sorry - i'm fed up with pandering to bxtches the whole time.

Anybody else get cheesed off with it all?
When you come on a pua site or a site like this

your told that strippers and skinny anorexic chicks with cute faces are the ones that you should chase after.

If I posted pics of chicks I'm pretty sure everyone would rate chicks low and call me a chubby chaser

However the reality is that on the low most men of my stature (who are big and work out) have similar taste

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=129311261&page=1
^^it's just frowned upon in large in society

now a days I could care less cause there is a lotta fronting going on these forums
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Danger said:
Solomon,

You are an EPIC HERO for posting that link.

You have single-handedly ruined my productivity for a week. And I'm not even a chubby lover. But wow I would demolish some of those chics....
Seriously...

I came across that thread on BB a couple months back. It did the same to me then. To the point where I saw what it was just now and clicked out as fast as I could. That link is a BAD idea for my work productivity, and my involvement in the No Fap Challenge!
 

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Big breasts are a plus. My rating system knocks off one point for fat, and two for grossly obese. However, I add a point for every cup size over C. They cancel each other out (for a simple reason: breasts are almost all fat).

The real problem is that women get fatter as they age. Very few women under about 25 have D cups, and extremely few are DD or larger. Those types usually become morbidly obese hogs if they aren't already. Not having children artificially slows the process -- but getting older without any kids says she was never tractable.

It makes perfect sense that men pursue young women. Young women are generally less fat and have smaller breasts. I'm in my fifties so the fatties you post are OK for me to pump 'n dump -- but I wouldn't recommend chubby chasing to a young man. Not when they can get women who aren't hit on right in front of your face by every azzhole in the restaurant. My psycho cluster b1tch ex got fat after having a kid, got bigger breasts and felt extremely entitled, and just sat on her fat ass waiting for men to call or "accidentally" leave their cell phones near her or such.

Solomon said:
If it's true then I may have to come sooner
So much for enlisting you in the no-fap challenge.
 

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Danger, I think there's a difference between loving yourself and narcisism.

I agree you should love yourself. In fact, I almost don't understand how someone could NOT love themselves. Maybe if they really screwed their life up bad, and was serving a life sentence in prison for it.

But I think there's a difference between loving yourself and knowing that you have the right mix of attributes to attract women. I don't think loving yourself guarantees that women will be attracted to you. That ignores all the other attraction factors.

That reminds me of the "Think you're a 10 in looks" concept. If you think you're a 10, but then every time you go anywhere, girls tell your buddy "Wow, you're good looking" while ignoring you, how long are you going to keep that belief?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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